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What was he like before you guys married? Or before you even met? What kind of relationships did he have?
I'm not sure it's really a problem unless both of you believe that it is a problem. However, you are right that there could be points in your married lives where you may not be able to accommodate so much. Is he satisfied if you do manual or oral stimulation on him, or does it always have to be intercourse?
He's been like this for as long as I've known him. He told me he lost his virginity at age 16 and his sex drive has been full-throttle since then. Our relationship actually began on purely sexual terms; we met at a club, had sex a few times that night, and became f-buddies because the sex was so amazing, but we formed a deeper connection as we started to spend more time together. He used to be promiscuous before we got together but he stopped seeing other girls when he realized we had feelings for each other. He told me he's had a girlfriend break up with him and one whom he broke up with because he wanted much more sex than they did, but that their sex drives were much lower than mine.
I can usually tide him over with a bj, but eventually he needs intercourse. When I'm on my period and can't have intercourse, i have to give him multiple bjs and let him titty-f me, and he gets the rest of his fix through porn and masturbation. He tells me that when I'm out of town, he masturbates "constantly" (I hope that's all he does, but i have no reason to believe that he's ever cheated on me).
When I'm on my period and can't have intercourse, i have to give him multiple bjs and let him titty-f me, and he gets the rest of his fix through porn and masturbation. He tells me that when I'm out of town, he masturbates "constantly" (I hope that's all he does, but i have no reason to believe that he's ever cheated on me).
Wow.
I'm all for period-lovin' (haha my husband doesn't care when I'm on it). But it's not CRAZY sex because I am in pain and feel crappy!
Does he care how you feel?
How does this make you feel...being treated like this?
"my husband is great in bed, great husband, im very attracted to him and I love him... but he just wants me too much"
your a perfect example of why husbands should still game their wives... why they should still try to be aloof, semi-jerky, mysterious badboys even after they get married. The only reason your not into it is because he doesnt allow you to chase him... hes throwing it all on you ( all his love, all his attraction, all his whatever else) and the fact that he is great in bed, attractive, and a good husband means nothing because you get all of him without even trying.
I didn't say i wasn't into it; i am into it. But i'm just having trouble keeping up with him and i think this isn't sustainable. i appreciate that my husband wants me and gives me his all, but i just can't continue having sex with him multiple times a day every day. there will come a time when we physically can't have sex as often as we do now and i want him to be prepared for it.
I'm all for period-lovin' (haha my husband doesn't care when I'm on it). But it's not CRAZY sex because I am in pain and feel crappy!
Does he care how you feel?
How does this make you feel...being treated like this?
Sex when i'm on my period is excruciatingly painful for me; we tried it once and then never tried it again. He says he's fine with that and he leaves me alone after a couple of bjs and some titty-fing (which i don't really mind too much, in all honesty), then he goes and takes care of himself if he wants more. So from his perspective he's already compromising.
"my husband is great in bed, great husband, im very attracted to him and I love him... but he just wants me too much"
your a perfect example of why husbands should still game their wives... why they should still try to be aloof, semi-jerky, mysterious badboys even after they get married. The only reason your not into it is because he doesnt allow you to chase him... hes throwing it all on you ( all his love, all his attraction, all his whatever else) and the fact that he is great in bed, attractive, and a good husband means nothing because you get all of him without even trying.
This is a pretty funny comment, but the older I get the more this has seemed like the truth. Women lose sexual desire for men who aren't ever unavailable in some way. It doesn't entirely make sense, but unless you can at least play the badboy on occasion she will lose her attraction. Some kind of nonconscious process in the female mind gradually desexualizes any man who doesn't periodically meet certain criteria. The original poster has a husband who is apparently a great guy, but he's also ready to get it on all the time. I bet he even begs on occasion. He isn't having sex with other people, it's not about that, it's about having sex with her. He is always available, his desire for her is explicitly constant, and thus she develops a problem.
All that said, hypersexual behavior like his can be caused by various things. It may just be how he is (I'm the same way!), but it may also be due to a mental disorder (e.g. hypomania) or drug intake (e.g. bupropion). You should investigate what medications he takes and read up on the causes and symptoms of mania, especially if his hypersexual behavior is causing serious problems for either of you. I personally become surly and significantly prone to depression if I don't have sex at least a few times per week, and I very rarely sleep well unless I've had sex within a couple hours of going to bed. I think it's entirely normal that a lack of sex has negative physiological effects. Our bodies have evolved to respond positively to sex, it's a feature.
I am really the only person I know with a sex drive as high as your husband. I seriously can get off 5 times a day and still wake up very horny. It's actually not fun and damaging to a relationship where my wife is more of a 3 times a week person.
I think its great that you keep up with him as much ad you do.
For me anxiety and sex drive go hand in hand. When I'm stressed at work, I need sex. When life is good, my drive is lower, but still 2-3 times a day. I laughed when reading posts about men trying to have kids and struggling to finish every other day. It's a problem I wish I had. Sometimes this drive feels like a curse.
Is there a history of anxiety on his side of the family? I think if your husband were to have a very hard time in his life, it might come out more.
Finally, I'm separated and on antidepressants. For the first time in my life, I only want sex every other day. It's actually really nice. I feel normal.
Wow, someone opened a time capsule and read a 15 y/o letter from my wife!
My advice: stop worrying. He's getting more from you than most women will put out. If I look at your 4:30PM post, I can say few women will do that. If he has any brains at all he knows this.
Hmm... Typically addictive behavior leads with LESS pleasure as the activity increases. If there is such a thing as a sex addict then he or she would tend to climax less and delay orgasm more and more with more frequency but at the same time no fall off in the 'hydraulics' of it. That is, a male sex addict would tend to have have sex more and more with fewer ejaculations but with no fall off in ability to have and maintain erections. So my thought is that if your husband maintains his 'normal' frequency of ejaculations with increased frequency of vigor of sex with you then he's not a 'sex addict'.
I guess I'm strugglling with what you advice you are seeking. Are you asking about whether your husband is normal, or do you have concerns about whether his type of frequency is sustainable?
If you are worried about the sustainability, then just have an open, honest discussion with him. Tell him that you are worried that as you go through life together there may be certain curve balls that will be thrown your way that may impact the ability to continue sex as frequently as it is now, and ask how he feels about that and tell him your worries.
If you are currently struggling keeping up with the frequency, just be honest with him. If he cares anything about you at all, then he would be willing to work with you so you can get to a situation that works for both of you.
I guess I'm strugglling with what you advice you are seeking. Are you asking about whether your husband is normal, or do you have concerns about whether his type of frequency is sustainable?
If you are worried about the sustainability, then just have an open, honest discussion with him. Tell him that you are worried that as you go through life together there may be certain curve balls that will be thrown your way that may impact the ability to continue sex as frequently as it is now, and ask how he feels about that and tell him your worries.
I guess both of those things, but moreso the latter. The truth is that i don't mind the frequency that much right now; i don't NEED sex nearly as much as he does, but i am a very sexual person and he's so good at sex that he can bring me around even when i'm not in the mood. But my worry is that our current level is just not sustainable given that our responsibilities will only increase in the future. We've talked about it and i think he understands that, but he seems to be thinking along the lines of we'll cross that bridge when we get there. My view is that we should already start adjusting our sex life to prepare for when life gets busier. We've tried to do that but any limits that we set fall apart because he doesn't have the discipline to stick to them (and truthfully, I can't seem to muster up the willpower to be strict with him since the sex is so good). So that's where the question comes in of whether or not it's normal for a man to want sex this much.
For me its normal. 2-3 times a day is what I've been at for 4 years. I'm 28 and am more interest in it with stress at work or when working out. I don't use porn either. I'm just horny all the time. Again, I have an underlying anxiety issue that has been fine for many years, but if the **** hit the fan, I would have panic attacks.
It's actually not fun. You basically can't stop thinking about sex. He is lucky to have you but Idk what he is going to do if you guys get busier.
I can limit it to 3 times a week with my wife, but after a few days I'm also acting like a smoker and easily get angry if rejected. I love my wife very much and am in a scientific field. I cannot be rational about it. My body pushes me very hard. Posted via Mobile Device
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