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We just got back from camping with our best friends. During night we got drunk and we did soft swap while we naked. Seeing wife doing oral and getting oral turned me on so hard that almost forgot the man's wife on me. Never done that be fore or felt that aroused before. Am I sick? Do I need help? Our marriage strong and I love my wife. Has anyone done that before?
You said in another post you've already done this before while camping, no? Have your feelings about it changed since the first time?
Also, I wouldn't exactly call it swapping, more like group sex (even without intercourse), but either way it is all up to what you and your W want in your relationship. If you are both completely comfortable with it then there is nothing wrong, though for me I personally don't think I could cope with the feelings of jealosy or thought of her finding another man more pleasing than I. I wouldn't say you are sick at all, I'm sure there are lots of others out there into the same thing, we live one life and it is reasonable to try things that you think will bring you joy... however if you are having negative feelings about it you need to understand them before you pursue this lifestyle, and I think the communication would have to be really, really strong in order to protect your relationship with your W.
My question is, why do I feel that way, what is wrong with me, is it wrong that this turning me on. it has no effect on my marriage, but the feeling that this might be wrong keep poping in my head.
it seems i'm the only one done that.
You sure about this? Even if you think it hasn't hurt it, which seems way premature to say, has it helped it? You said your marriage is strong and you love your wife but your other threads seem to contradict this.
Nobody can answer if this is normal. everyone has their own sense of normal. You'll get plenty of people here who strongly oppose these activities and others who take a more relaxed view. I think among those who do these activities, it is 'normal' to become aroused by them. If you are thinking that men only share their wives because they want the other guy's wife in return, I think you are mistaken. I think many if not most men who do this kind of thing do it because they enjoy seeing their wives with other men.
regarding Lon's post, if you have already said that you've done this before and now you are saying that you've just done this for the first time, then I question the veracity of this post.
we have done with another girl before. never went to that level, just my concern was if I'm suppose to feel that way. sorry for confusions.
i saw most people talking how wrong it is and not suppose to that. and some saying no way, etc..
The feelings of arousal supposedly come from an instinct. When another man "takes" our woman, our instinct is to become aroused by that so that we can get in there and re-assert our dominance over her. The penis acts as a scoop to remove the other guys semen and replace it with our own. That doesn't make it right or wrong, but I think that is what you are wondering. It is "normal" to be aroused by this, but it is very dangerous territory emotionally speaking. I'd never give my wife to another man or woman.
You said in another post you've already done this before while camping, no? Have your feelings about it changed since the first time?
Also, I wouldn't exactly call it swapping, more like group sex (even without intercourse), but either way it is all up to what you and your W want in your relationship. If you are both completely comfortable with it then there is nothing wrong, though for me I personally don't think I could cope with the feelings of jealosy or thought of her finding another man more pleasing than I. I wouldn't say you are sick at all, I'm sure there are lots of others out there into the same thing, we live one life and it is reasonable to try things that you think will bring you joy... however if you are having negative feelings about it you need to understand them before you pursue this lifestyle, and I think the communication would have to be really, really strong in order to protect your relationship with your W.
They like to go camping with other couples it seems and use that time for this stuff. His prevous post said they did a soft swap with bathing suits on. Now they have moved on to naked and falling short of penetration, which defines a soft swap.
I guess the next step is full penetration.
This is swinging. I have no interest in such a thing personally.
I think a guy who does this is flirting with losing everything.
The feelings of arousal supposedly come from an instinct. When another man "takes" our woman, our instinct is to become aroused by that so that we can get in there and re-assert our dominance over her. The penis acts as a scoop to remove the other guys semen and replace it with our own. That doesn't make it right or wrong, but I think that is what you are wondering. It is "normal" to be aroused by this, but it is very dangerous territory emotionally speaking. I'd never give my wife to another man or woman.
am i sick? soft swap during camping trip 
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