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Old 08-13-2011, 12:56 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I have started to work out and become a fitness junkie so to speak, and along with jump starting my metabolism I have also jump started my sex drive.

My husband and I have been having sex every night. Which is great but last night my husband told me hes tired after work and not always in the mood and feels bad if he tells me no when I ask for sex.

I have yet to tell him that on top of what we have been doing every night I have felt the need to masturbate at least 3-4 times through out the day.

I don't want to give up my new workout routine but how can I "Turn Down" my sex drive? Is this even possible?
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Old 08-13-2011, 01:13 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I have started to work out and become a fitness junkie so to speak, and along with jump starting my metabolism I have also jump started my sex drive.

My husband and I have been having sex every night. Which is great but last night my husband told me hes tired after work and not always in the mood and feels bad if he tells me no when I ask for sex.

I have yet to tell him that on top of what we have been doing every night I have felt the need to masturbate at least 3-4 times through out the day.

I don't want to give up my new workout routine but how can I "Turn Down" my sex drive? Is this even possible?
Exercise does this. How long has this been going on? There will be a big surge at some point. Spinds like you are in it. Then it will not settele out into waves that re-occur depending on your Central Nervous System and other factors.

Do you work full time?

I will also state the obvious, but make sure you have strong boundaries as far as dealing with opposite sex friends. I am assuming you do not have a male personal trainer.

The thing is that what you are doing should be seen as a positive thing. But your answer to how long this has been going on will tell us much.

Do you have kids?

I see that you are in your mid twemties. Makes sense.

What does hubby do for a living? Does he work long hours?

Sexual positions can help out with the tired part. You on top when he is tired. Various other positions require a little less energy.

Does he work out? If not I suggest he start and do some heavy weight training with large compound movements. I suggest he up his game a bit and try to meet you half way. Regular sex for a man increases his testorterone. He needs to be taking multi-purpose vitamins twice daily. Extra zinc. He needs at least 7-8 hours of good sleep nightly. Alcohol is a bad idea.

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Old 08-13-2011, 02:04 PM   #3 (permalink)
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This happened to me too and I was not even working out, I rarely masterbated though, I tempered myself to wait for him, he told me he didn't want me to use toys, but him, no matter how often I wanted it. But he could never keep up with that. I would have loved 3 times a day.

So you are mid 20's. Young.

This rush lasted for 8 months for me, I was early 40's. It was one of the wildest things I ever experienced. Loved it & was tormented by it at the same time.

My husband was happy to just use erection enhancers for some of those "slower to rise" nights to keep us going daily. His attitude was - so long as he could get it up, he was happy to use it.

Looking back at that time, I felt like my mind was HI JACKED! Accually, I wouldn't have wanted to turn it down-at least not too much, I was having too much fun with it.


I DID cause my husband some "performance pressure". I wasted no time, even sending him to the Doc to get his TESTOSTERONE checked! This is kinda funny looking back.

Then I got really CREATIVE to keep him entertained and wanting me. Like Entropy said, lots of REST every night, I would make mine go to bed early sometimes, always get up & cook for him every morning, tried to allieviate as much stress as possible on him at home--so we had more time together for the sweet stuff.

, I also upped his "manly" vitamins (DHEA, Zinc, Gingo, etc), planned little vacations -just the 2 of us, revived our emotional connection, lots of lingerie, more flirting, sex games, ertotic massage, etc.

That was how I handled it >> I focused less on trying to lower mine and more on trying to seduce him & get him in the best health & frame of mine for MORE of me.

If your husband is in his 20's, he shouldn't need any "Vitamin V" yet.
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This happened to me too and I was not even working out, I rarely masterbated though, I tempered myself to wait for him, he told me he didn't want me to use toys, but him, no matter how often I wanted it. But he could never keep up with that. I would have loved 3 times a day.

So you are mid 20's. Young.

This rush lasted for 8 months for me, I was early 40's. It was one of the wildest things I ever experienced. Loved it & was tormented by it at the same time.

My husband was happy to just use erection enhancers for some of those "slower to rise" nights to keep us going daily. His attitude was - so long as he could get it up, he was happy to use it.

Looking back at that time, I felt like my mind was HI JACKED! Accually, I wouldn't have wanted to turn it down-at least not too much, I was having too much fun with it.


I DID cause my husband some "performance pressure". I wasted no time, even sending him to the Doc to get his TESTOSTERONE checked! This is kinda funny looking back.

Then I got really CREATIVE to keep him entertained and wanting me. Like Entropy said, lots of REST every night, I would make mine go to bed early sometimes, always get up & cook for him every morning, tried to allieviate as much stress as possible on him at home--so we had more time together for the sweet stuff.

, I also upped his "manly" vitamins (DHEA, Zinc, Gingo, etc), planned little vacations -just the 2 of us, revived our emotional connection, lots of lingerie, more flirting, sex games, ertotic massage, etc.

That was how I handled it >> I focused less on trying to lower mine and more on trying to seduce him & get him in the best health & frame of mine for MORE of me.

If your husband is in his 20's, he shouldn't need any "Vitamin V" yet.

Good stuff.

Never tried Vitamin V.

Something I have not mentiond before but when I am working out regularly and with heavy weights, I also take DHEA. DHEA levels can be tested. Generally it is not needed for guys under 35 though. I take creatine too but that is to help me with the strenuous workouts.

I go with GNC Mega Men Sport multi-vitamin once in the morning and once before bed. It is probably over priced, but it makes a difference in handling stress levels and I just flat feel better when I am taking them. I also take fish oil and Zinc.

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Old 08-13-2011, 07:33 PM   #5 (permalink)
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My husband and I have been having sex every night. Which is great but last night my husband told me hes tired after work and not always in the mood and feels bad if he tells me no when I ask for sex.

I have yet to tell him that on top of what we have been doing every night I have felt the need to masturbate at least 3-4 times through out the day.
Jebus! The missus is just like you, with the exception that she doesn't masturbate 3-4x a day, instead she coerces me into sex 3-4x a day and becomes abusive if I don't put out (I have a whole thread on it). We're doing counselling now because of that issue.

Regardless, I don't see a problem, you are understanding of him, you don't push him beyond his limits, you don't cause him pain, you are considerate of his crown jewels. I only wish the missus is like you in this manner.
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Old 08-14-2011, 04:15 AM   #6 (permalink)
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I am in my late 40s, husband is 7 years younger but acts like he is 80 years old sometimes. My sex drive is very high and when we first got together 10 years ago, he actually had a hard time performing because I guess I was so sexually exciting for him, he feared he may not be able to satisfy me. Once he found he was able to help me have multiple orgasms, sometimes up to 20 during our love making session, he felt much more confident about it and things were awesome. That was 10 years ago and now he is 42 and thinks he is "old" and I have not changed a bit with my sex drive. I have found that if I get upset if he turns me down, this makes matters much worse and he loses not only the interest to be intimate, but the ability to actually perform is also lost, for the most part, that is. He is very sensitive mentally I guess, even told me that his sex drive is based on how he feels emotionally and if he is pressured by me to have sex when he doesnt want to, that makes him stressed out to the point he will avoid me not only that night, but for days and days. Once he made it go on for several months because he was so "traumatized" by my pouting when he turned me down. BS or not, I dont know, but I have found that if I sweet talk him by basically whispering very sexy things in his ear, and tell him I will take a rain check if he is too tired, he usually races me to the bed. If he is in control it seems to work out much better. I used to even tell him that his friends would think he was NUTS to turn sex down like he does...and he is like your man is and doesnt want me to use toys either. I havent figured out why yet, probably he thinks I wlll depend more on my battery operated toy rather than him...if I could pop a few double A batteries in him and go for it, that would be awesome, but sadly, that is not reality. Not sure if I helped at all here other than suggesting that you let him be in control even if you out smart him into it, letting him think he made the first move.
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If he is in control it seems to work out much better.
Yes yes yes!!!

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I used to even tell him that his friends would think he was NUTS to turn sex down like he does..
No don't do that, that's what the missus does, and it's irritating!!!

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you let him be in control even if you out smart him into it, letting him think he made the first move.
Yes yes yes!!! Some men like to be the conqueror!
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