My best friend is in what I call an empty marriage. He has said it himself that they are more like roommates than spouses. There's no affection from her, and he is rebuffed all the time. She lords over him and forbids him from doing hobbies or activities she herself isn't interested in. He's told me he "can't remember the last time I had sex." He's also said they have openly and calmly considered divorce.
I've already thought of him as a brother. He and my wife get along great. We often joke about him being her boyfriend. They sometimes spend time together without me (when I'm on a fire call, mostly) but I trust them both and have no fear of anything going on behind my back.
With the condition of his marriage, and the constant joking about their "relationship," my wife had a time where she felt sorry for him and thought she should "do something" for him. This pretty much freaked everybody out, but not in the same way. Wife was freaked because she didn't want to cheat on me but with all the joking didn't know if I was serious about anything and didn't necessarily feel attracted to Friend but wanted to hell the situation. Friend didn't want to ruin our marriage, his and my friendship (dates back to kindergarten, and we're in our 30s), or his and her friendship, considering the 3 of us is about as big as our individual circle of friends goes. We are kind of pathetic like that...
I don't know what I feel. I don't want to ruin anything we've got, but I'm kind of turned on by the idea of a threesome. Wife is a rock star in the bedroom, even at 8 months preggo, and in a way I want to show her off. The weirdest thing is, if we were to do something like that, as long as I was involved, I don't think I would be upset. If I weren't involved, that would be a problem, but with me there, it really sounds like a turn on.
Friend and I have always been closer than brothers, very similar personalities and interests. Considering this concept with any other guy but him is uncomfortable. Wife and I have talked about it. She's shy about the entire concept but I think she's open to it. Friend thinks it would eventually ruin one friendship or another. Wife is also against the idea of "returning the favor" and having a threesome with another female. She's still somewhat insecure.
I just don't know what to think anymore. Am I weird?
I've already thought of him as a brother. He and my wife get along great. We often joke about him being her boyfriend. They sometimes spend time together without me (when I'm on a fire call, mostly) but I trust them both and have no fear of anything going on behind my back.
With the condition of his marriage, and the constant joking about their "relationship," my wife had a time where she felt sorry for him and thought she should "do something" for him. This pretty much freaked everybody out, but not in the same way. Wife was freaked because she didn't want to cheat on me but with all the joking didn't know if I was serious about anything and didn't necessarily feel attracted to Friend but wanted to hell the situation. Friend didn't want to ruin our marriage, his and my friendship (dates back to kindergarten, and we're in our 30s), or his and her friendship, considering the 3 of us is about as big as our individual circle of friends goes. We are kind of pathetic like that...
I don't know what I feel. I don't want to ruin anything we've got, but I'm kind of turned on by the idea of a threesome. Wife is a rock star in the bedroom, even at 8 months preggo, and in a way I want to show her off. The weirdest thing is, if we were to do something like that, as long as I was involved, I don't think I would be upset. If I weren't involved, that would be a problem, but with me there, it really sounds like a turn on.
Friend and I have always been closer than brothers, very similar personalities and interests. Considering this concept with any other guy but him is uncomfortable. Wife and I have talked about it. She's shy about the entire concept but I think she's open to it. Friend thinks it would eventually ruin one friendship or another. Wife is also against the idea of "returning the favor" and having a threesome with another female. She's still somewhat insecure.
I just don't know what to think anymore. Am I weird?