This is something I thought would be good to get different perspectives on since obviously the topic of sex can be greatly varied from person to person. Do you have a breaking point where lack of sex in a relationship would become a deal breaker for you? Or maybe you did end a relationship over this, and if so, was it mostly b/c of sex or was it sex combined with other issues?
What got me thinking about this was a couple of things. In the past few weeks I have seen in several threads where a TAM'er had posted that they had been in a sexless relationship (in some cases for years) and although from the tone of their message they didn't appear happy about it they seemed to have just accepted it as is. Also, I was talking to a friend of mine where lack of sex had been a hot topic for him with his wife. Last time i talked to him he seemed like he had almost given up and just accepted this is how it was going to be.
I know it is easy to just say get out of the relationship if your needs aren't being met, but in many cases it is a lot more complicated than that (kids, finances, the thought of being alone, sex robot hasn't been delivered yet, etc...). In the case of my friend I believe the lack of sex is more a symptom of other issues in their marriage, but then again, what the **** do I know :grin2:
One positive post (as a guy) I did see another female member here make was that she did realize after a while that she needed to take some accountability and make some changes with herself to help get her sex life with her H back on track. I only bring this up since I know myself and many others have had this bs concept of "Happy Wife Happy Life" pushed on us, so seeing someone post that there is a shared responsibility in making a relationship work (whether it be sex or other) is refreshing.
For me personally, I don't really know what my breaking point would be. Not too long ago I felt like I was possibly heading in that direction where I finally accepted that it wasn't selfish to want an active sex life. Since then things have been heading in the right direction although still a work in progress.
What got me thinking about this was a couple of things. In the past few weeks I have seen in several threads where a TAM'er had posted that they had been in a sexless relationship (in some cases for years) and although from the tone of their message they didn't appear happy about it they seemed to have just accepted it as is. Also, I was talking to a friend of mine where lack of sex had been a hot topic for him with his wife. Last time i talked to him he seemed like he had almost given up and just accepted this is how it was going to be.
I know it is easy to just say get out of the relationship if your needs aren't being met, but in many cases it is a lot more complicated than that (kids, finances, the thought of being alone, sex robot hasn't been delivered yet, etc...). In the case of my friend I believe the lack of sex is more a symptom of other issues in their marriage, but then again, what the **** do I know :grin2:
One positive post (as a guy) I did see another female member here make was that she did realize after a while that she needed to take some accountability and make some changes with herself to help get her sex life with her H back on track. I only bring this up since I know myself and many others have had this bs concept of "Happy Wife Happy Life" pushed on us, so seeing someone post that there is a shared responsibility in making a relationship work (whether it be sex or other) is refreshing.
For me personally, I don't really know what my breaking point would be. Not too long ago I felt like I was possibly heading in that direction where I finally accepted that it wasn't selfish to want an active sex life. Since then things have been heading in the right direction although still a work in progress.