Sigh...my husband is impotent and I am frustrated.
My husband and I have been together for almost 20 years, married for almost 14. We have an amazing relationship, we are truly in love each other and more than anything we really like each other. We truly are friends.
IN the past few years my husband has battled and is still battling several health challenges and as a result he now suffers from erectile dysfunction. He is able to have erections, but unable to maintain them to complete the act. He is able to have an orgasm usually before he loses the erection and if he doesn't I have helped him manually or orally, but then I am then left sexually frustrated.
Until recently we had not discussed my frustation and the ED problem because I didn't want to embarrass him and I suppose he was a bit in denial. However he recently learned that I was entertaining the idea of getting sexually fulfilled elsewhere as a result of my frustation and we began to openly discuss the problem. We are now both in agreement that there is a problem, but unsure of what to do next.
Now that my husband is out of denial he has almost completely stopped touching me. I feel like I live with a roommate or a close friend. All intimacy has left because of his fear of disappointing me. And I think that he has stopped touching me because he doesn't want it to lead to anything that he can't finish.
I feel like I live with a roommate or good friend. I've explored the ideas of a PA with someone and I currently have a serious crush on someone, but I have not pursued anything and I doubt that I will. But I hate feeling the way that I feel.
Anyone BTDT? Not sure what my expectations are in terms of advice but I really am at a lost.
Last edited by lovejones; 08-30-2011 at 05:52 PM.