09-05-2011, 12:26 PM
Join Date: May 2011
| | Re: It may be too late
I think your wife might feel better if she saw you actively pursuing solutions to the problems that you know you have. Never had low T since I am female, but I do have really low thyroid function which I take replacement hormone for. So, I know what it feels like when hormones at totally out of whack, how tired you are, how fuzzy headed you feel, how apathetic it can make you feel.
So, STEP ONE of your plan - go back to your doctor and see where your levels are. Discuss your symptoms and other treatment options. Discuss how long to see resolution of some of your symptoms. If your doctor is not receptive to your concerns, go to another one until you find one who will treat you and continue to treat you based upon your symptoms.
STEP TWO - Just be honest with your wife. When you have a physical situation (the "in sickness" or the "for worse" part of the marriage vows), it takes both of you on board and pulling the oars.
I have to be really honest with my husband. There are really just times that I am too tired or achey to do much (usually an indication to high-tail it back to the doc for a blood test and a higher dose of hormone). However, I do try to be as accommodating as I can reasonably be.
Can you do that for your wife? If you can't do the full deal, you still have hands and a mouth (or toys) that can be used and that may not take as much energy. Even just cuddling and snuggling, flirting during the day, small touches -- all of them let her know that you still think about her even if the fires of desire are slower to ignite or aren't burning as brightly yet.
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