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I've met this really great girl that i've been hanging out with the last year. We are basically deciding to take our relationship to the next level or an "official" relationship.
I'm saving myself for marriage because it's something I believe in for many reasons (not just religious). She has been with only one very experience partner in the past, but we have agreed we will wait.
I will be vacationing with her on Maui for a week coming up. She has never really seen my body or my penis. I want to make sure I can please her in life if we are destined to be together.
My penis is only about 5.5 inches long and about 4.73 inches girth (about 1.5 inches across the top). Now with the length I'm not really sure how to measure, so the length could be from anywhere from 5 inches to 5.75. To me it just seems and looks really small. Plus I am a grower not a show'er, so flaccid it doesn't look impressive to me.
1. Does a flaccid penis matter in a marriage? Do wives like to play around with them or does it affect anything?
2. I want to just show her my body and erect penis and just ask if I can make her happy with what I have. Is this a good idea?
Or should I just never let her see until we are married? I want her to know exactly what I have and what she is getting. I am worried because she was with a really experience guy that in my mind I am thinking probably had a hugh penis.
3. How do I approach progressing with her and letting her know what I have? I just want to make sure I can please her in life.
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She is just so amazing and I worry I will not be good enough for her in life. I was thinking I could show it to her and she could tell if the size will be good enough to please her. If she is not happy with the size then we could just not take things further. She could compare the size to her previous experienced partner.
She said she likes it fast, does that give any indication of what type of penis size she would need to please her?
If you're only just entering the "official" level of a relationship, why are you worrying about things in relation to marriage?
Why dont you just relax and let things take their course, Im sure if you live together before marriage, and even though you're not having sex, she will at some stage see your penis (getting dressed, showering etc).
If she was with someone in the past who had a "huge penis" but was very inexperienced, chances are it was a crap experience for her LOL
I've met this really great girl that i've been hanging out with the last year. We are basically deciding to take our relationship to the next level or an "official" relationship.
I'm saving myself for marriage because it's something I believe in for many reasons (not just religious). She has been with only one very experience partner in the past, but we have agreed we will wait.
I will be vacationing with her on Maui for a week coming up. She has never really seen my body or my penis. I want to make sure I can please her in life if we are destined to be together.
My penis is only about 5.5 inches long and about 4.73 inches girth (about 1.5 inches across the top). Now with the length I'm not really sure how to measure, so the length could be from anywhere from 5 inches to 5.75. To me it just seems and looks really small. Plus I am a grower not a show'er, so flaccid it doesn't look impressive to me.
1. Does a flaccid penis matter in a marriage? Do wives like to play around with them or does it affect anything?
2. I want to just show her my body and erect penis and just ask if I can make her happy with what I have. Is this a good idea?
Or should I just never let her see until we are married? I want her to know exactly what I have and what she is getting. I am worried because she was with a really experience guy that in my mind I am thinking probably had a hugh penis.
3. How do I approach progressing with her and letting her know what I have? I just want to make sure I can please her in life.
In my experience, penis size doesn't really matter. Personally, I've been with all different sizes, and at the end of the day, it's more about the kind of connection two people have. You are a virgin, that might make a difference in the overall experience though... Do you have any experience, i.e. oral, heavy play, etc.? Because all of that matters too, not just the size. And as far as a flaccid penis in a marriage... It really has no bearing in my marriage, although usually when my H is naked, or I'm around him when he's naked, it's typically not flaccid for long
I would say you're slightly below average, but not enough to worry about it. What are you going to do, in any case?
If you're concerned about pleasing your partner, your best bet is to make the most of your other assets. Your mind/imagination, fingers, mouth... Heck, even if you're not concerned about your size, learning how to please a partner is never a bad thing!
As far as a flaccid penis, and what a partner might think... I'm a guy, so I've just been on the receiving end. It might be examined casually, maybe caressed... But there doesn't seem to much interest in it until it's show-time. And again, there's not much you can do about it in any case.
With regards to making sure you're acceptable to her, size-wise... Over time, I'm sure she'll get a chance to check out the equipment, even if it's through clothes or something. But as long as it's not abnormally small, and if you have some other skills to back it up, I wouldn't worry about it too much.
I've met this really great girl that i've been hanging out with the last year. We are basically deciding to take our relationship to the next level or an "official" relationship.
I'm saving myself for marriage because it's something I believe in for many reasons (not just religious). She has been with only one very experience partner in the past, but we have agreed we will wait.
I will be vacationing with her on Maui for a week coming up. She has never really seen my body or my penis. I want to make sure I can please her in life if we are destined to be together.
My penis is only about 5.5 inches long and about 4.73 inches girth (about 1.5 inches across the top). Now with the length I'm not really sure how to measure, so the length could be from anywhere from 5 inches to 5.75. To me it just seems and looks really small. Plus I am a grower not a show'er, so flaccid it doesn't look impressive to me.
1. Does a flaccid penis matter in a marriage? Do wives like to play around with them or does it affect anything?
2. I want to just show her my body and erect penis and just ask if I can make her happy with what I have. Is this a good idea?
Or should I just never let her see until we are married? I want her to know exactly what I have and what she is getting. I am worried because she was with a really experience guy that in my mind I am thinking probably had a hugh penis.
3. How do I approach progressing with her and letting her know what I have? I just want to make sure I can please her in life.
You are focused on the little head and not using your big head!
Some guys are growers and some guys aren't. So, the guy who looks impressive while flaccid in the shower at the gym may be the same size when aroused as a guy with a grower who looks small when not aroused.
Deciding to wait til marriage is a personal decision. Personally, I would not wait as sexual compatibility is important to a successful marriage.
Why on earth are you worried about this? If she loves you, she will love ALL of you. You love her, right, so would you compare her to Jennifer Lopez or Jessica Simpson? Would you find her lacking if her breast size were too small?
Love is not about body part size; it is about meeting each other's needs. A good lover pays attention to his beloved. That is all you need to do.
In a weird way I have experience with multiple penis sizes.....lol Dont laugh. Anyone who has been overweight and then skinny knows all about this.
I spent the majority of my marriage overweight, and measured just over 6. Not sure the exact measurement because I did not pay attention at the time.
Fast forward to an 80lb weight loss and getting in much better shape overall from lifting weights and eating right. Now I measure closer to 8.
So, did this increase in size make a difference in bed??? Nope!!! Not one bit. My wife could care less about the size. She never cared before and does not care now.
But there are 2 things that do make a difference… First you have to keep her comfortable and find out how to please her. This may take a while but you will get better with time. You never know what the magic buttons will be for her until you practice with her. Second, being in good shape helps a lot! My wife does enjoy and complement my new appearance. Stamina is a heck of a lot better as well.
Don’t word about 5.5 That’s pretty much average. You will be fine. If she's like my wife her g-spot is only about 1.5-2 inches deep anyway. Anything over average is just going to limit your other options if you know what I mean. Just remember to pay attention to what she likes and make sure she has a good time.
As for waiting….I can’t say. I was not religious or anything. I had sex with one girl before I met my wife. And I regret that my wife was not my first. So I say at least wait until you are very serious and you know that this is the woman that you want to be with.
Saving yourself for marriage IS ALWAYS a really really bad idea.
Take her to Maui and make love to her.
All your insecurities will be addressed and put to bed with that one simple act.
I think you couldn't be more wrong on this. Deciding when you want to have sex and finding a partner whom you care about and respects those desires is huge.
I don't think you always need to test drive sex to determine if you are compatible sexually. I think it is a personal decision to decide to wait or not and I think both ways can work and both ways can not. How many threads have we read about sexless marriages where the couple humped like rabbits early on and fizzled big time? The important thing is communication and how you handle yourself after that initial excitement period that comes from sex with a new/first partner.
I know I could tell sexual chemistry with prior partners before we had sex.
Disclaimer: My sex life could improve, but my wife and I communicate about it and are making a real effort to do so.
As far as your question goes, google average penis size. If I remember right, yours may fall in on the low average range. Also, according to my wife, size doesn't matter. I have gotten my wife to climax several times and I'd fall right in the middle of average range.
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