So upset!

ladybird · 09-15-2011, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by unbelievable

Ladybird, you said you never told him he was unattractive. You told him every time you neglected to touch him, every time you failed to tell him you love him. He apparently got no or very little sexual affirmation from the only person on earth authorized to legitimately give it. Not casting blame in either direction, just pointing out that if you don't water a plant the only logical result is that it will die. Love has a very short memory and if you're not putting out loving signals, you're putting out signals of disinterest and indifference. Nobody gets a free pass and we don't need to deceive ourselves. We work on our relationships every day. We are either working to make them stronger or we're working to destroy them. There are no vacation days.

you must give to receive.. it is a 2 way street.. But i do get what you are saying and i

ladybird · 09-28-2011, 05:38 PM

Things between h and I were better for about a week..He has gone back to the same old thing, however i still tell him I love him and i still touch him. He doesn't give it back. Things are so one sided...

I have decided that i am not going to get upset, angry or depressed because of it.. I am working on becoming a better person for ME.. I have realized I can and will survive without him.. I dont need him to make me happy, i can make myself happy.. and that is exactly what i am going to do.. Make myself happy for ME. I am finally going to do something for myself.

He ins't going to make changes for himself.. and i can not make him.. I am done trying.. I can't do it anymore.. He is not willing to meet me in the middle.. I kind of figured that nothing would change, but i had hope..

I have let everything go.. It is very liberating for me.. It is like a huge weight has lifted off of my shoulders..