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Okay, so baby's due in a few weeks. He's said he'll get snipped, but hasn't actually done anything in that regards and even if he did tomorrow, we'd need something else for a while anyway. I can't blame him for not wanting to (though I wish he'd say right out if that's the case) as I'm not about to undergo any surgical procedures that aren't a matter of life and death. Tell me what you like and why?
I'm a huge fan of the Mirena IUD. It's the one that releases small amounts of progesterone as well as being an IUD. I'm on my second one. No pills, no periods, no worries! Posted via Mobile Device
20 years with the same woman. Sex for the past 18 or so and two planned children with no birth control. She didn't tolerate the pill too well so that was out too.
First time we had sex was spontaneous on the living room floor and not a condom in sight. I will never forget the look on her face when I pulled out and hit her in the forehead. I had to hold back from laughing it was classic first time having sex and gave my girlfriend an unexpected facial.
That night we picked some up. I honestly think we went only went through 2 maybe 3 boxes and she wouldn't use them again. She told me it is bare or nothing. Been like that ever since.
I'd like to try the IUD but I was told if you're never had a child that you cannot get it. Well, that's what my mother told me LOL.
Right now I'm on the pill, norgestrel. It's not that big of a deal to me to take it at the same time everyday since I'm not a busy person so that also depends on what you do day to day.
I was on ortho tri cyclen lo and my periods were all over the place with breakthrough bleeding, my boobs were ridiculously tender and I felt sick to my stomach. That crap had me thinking I was pregnant but I wasn't. So I switched to norgestrel and my periods are on point and I don't get them on weekends...always start on a monday. It doesn't screw with my mood and I feel great. So if you don't mind pills, try that.
Nothing works like a properly lubed rubber. Posted via Mobile Device
The only good things about condoms are that they protect from disease (as much as possible, anyway), and if the guy's a "quick draw", they can slow things down. Oh, and they make cleanup easier during that time of the month or anal...
Other than that, they suck big time, and not in a good way. They smell, they take away sensitivity big time, and they destroy spontaneity.
Hubs got a V over 2 years ago. We were done after our daughter.
I never took BC ...just used condoms with bfs. I knew my body well and wouldn't sleep with anyone during ovulation week.
However, my hubs and I (newly dating) DID have sex during ovulation. I told him I had ovulated that morning, he said he'd pull out and voila....we made a baby because he forgot to pull out. Twice. LOL.
I'd like to try the IUD but I was told if you're never had a child that you cannot get it. Well, that's what my mother told me LOL.
Nope, I'm on my second IUD and I've never had a kid, never will. I figure I'll finish this IUD out, get one more and then most likely be able to confirm menopause or close enough with a hormone panel since I won't have had to be bothered with a period since....I was 30 maybe? All for the cost of a co-pay every 5 years!
I believe they say that insertion is easier if you've had a child because the uterus has been stretched, and if you haven't had a child then there is a slightly higher risk for expulsion. However, the chances for expulsion are still very low, so I didn't ever see it as a concern.
Today's IUDs are very different than what your mother is probably telling you about--well worth checking out, in my opinion.
Nope, I'm on my second IUD and I've never had a kid, never will. I figure I'll finish this IUD out, get one more and then most likely be able to confirm menopause or close enough with a hormone panel since I won't have had to be bothered with a period since....I was 30 maybe? All for the cost of a co-pay every 5 years!
I believe they say that insertion is easier if you've had a child because the uterus has been stretched, and if you haven't had a child then there is a slightly higher risk for expulsion. However, the chances for expulsion are still very low, so I didn't ever see it as a concern.
Today's IUDs are very different than what your mother is probably telling you about--well worth checking out, in my opinion.
Hmmm, ok thanks. She had hers taken out just 2 years ago so it's fairly recent. And all the people I know who have them have kids so I just assumed she was right. I have heard of some people being able to feel it and it's uncomfortable? Anyway, I'm not yet annoyed with taking a pill everyday so by the time I get to that point I'll ask about the IUD.
If you are going to be breast feeding, some options won't be available to you. Best thing to do is to discuss this with your OB/GYN. I'm all for tubal ligation. I had that procedure done 17 years ago. It was a piece of cake. I was only "incapacitated" on the day of the surgery. Although I was on pain medication for a couple of days, I was up and about as before by the next day.
I have heard of some people being able to feel it and it's uncomfortable? Anyway, I'm not yet annoyed with taking a pill everyday so by the time I get to that point I'll ask about the IUD.
Yeah, the IUD became one of the few choices left to me once I started taking a daily med to prevent migraines that interacted with the pill. The only time I've ever thought I felt mine was once or twice when I had terrible stomach flu going on and basically everything in that area hurt from a couple of days of erm...gastric distress. Who knows if it was actually the IUD or what, you know? Never problems with hubby feeling the strings or anything either. Posted via Mobile Device
Okay, so baby's due in a few weeks. He's said he'll get snipped, but hasn't actually done anything in that regards and even if he did tomorrow, we'd need something else for a while anyway. I can't blame him for not wanting to (though I wish he'd say right out if that's the case) as I'm not about to undergo any surgical procedures that aren't a matter of life and death. Tell me what you like and why?
I absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE my copper paragard IUD, got it on the way home from having our last baby -- I wasted no time . It is hormone free -can stay in up to 12 yrs, NO Surgery, only takes 5 minutes or less to insert (yes, some cramping) no pills, no NOTHING, they told me I don't even have to worry about the string .
I remember feeling a sudden sexual "FREEDOM" once I got this in -no more worries about getting a Rubber , or what day my cycle was on (Rhythm method).
I did Not want my husband to get a vasectomy, this is what I choose after research , and couldn't be happier with it, has been in 4 yrs now. Never one issue. MY aunt also had one in for near 9 yrs - then taken out when she married, had a daughter, then got another one. SO it worked wonderfully for her also.
I'll be breast-feeding--but that is so not birth control. Hah! (Every one of mine has nursed up until sometime in the first trimester with the next.)
Don't have an OB/GYN, have a midwife and a family physician, whom I'll be talking to about different options. But, in my experience, doctors don't always know why people pick one option or another--they often just know what the company advertising the item says, and companies don't have the motivation to say, well, some of our customers don't like this product because XYZ.
SepticChange--you're lucky: we found out the hard way with our first that if your cycle isn't syncing with the pill it's not working. Not sure if I can use a pill anyway--I recently saw a study that they increase risk for type II diabetes and I've got a couple risk factors for that already. This baby, #5, is a failure to put the condom on baby. #2 was a failure to put the diaphragm in baby, #3 and #4 were planned.
Incease risk for type II diabetes? That runs in my family but oh well, ha. For most of this summer up until last week H and I have just been using the "pull out" method which we also did for a couple months when we were dating. It's not advised and I know someone who was conceived this way but it works for some, not for others.
Birth Control, what do you like and why? 
