Re: How much sex would be enough?
My SO's health issues have cause my sex life to be non-existant forever! Close to forever anyways... I was a 15 year old virgin when we got together (stayed one for a couple years after). He has never been able to get hard even with medication. Priaprism at a very young age due to his sickle cell added to his inheritently low blood count made it so. We made it work in the early years... had 2 kids despite never getting more than the tip. It never bothered me, I didnt know any better (still dont in case anyone is wondering).
But for the last 3 years or so he gets extreme pain, to the point he gets physically sick, anytime his heart rate rises... obviously this includes anything of a sexual nature. We attempted for a while.. 5 mins of touching, 20 mins of him on the floor, back for another 5 mins. I got nothing out of it, he got pain. He tried for me, I tried for him, but after a while it just wasnt worth it anymore. Knowing logically what the outcome was going to be did not change the increasingly devastating effect it had on me (him too, but I can only speak for my point of view). Logically, I knew what was going to happen every time. But I still got caught up in it. Id think about it for hours, get 5 mins into foreplay.. done and over.
Emotions are a strange thing. Logically, I KNOW it is a health issue. But eventually it killed my self esteem. My partner running off to puke after 2 mins of touching me... I would cry in bed and then put on a smiley face when he came back.
We stopped trying now. Its been 8 months or longer. We dont kiss, touch, anything. Might be my age, Im 33 now, but I think about sex more than most teenage boys do. I dream of being woken up with it, coming home for a lunch time "snack", and sneaking off for a bathroom quicky. I dream of being thrown over a couch, being grabbed while Im walking by, playingful (and discrete) touching under the blanket during family movie night. More specifically, I want to know what its like to be wanted by someone.
If I got to choose, I would say 1-2 times a day. Granted that may be my despetation talking. Its easy to want a lot when youve never had any.
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Last edited by NotEZ; 02-08-2016 at 12:53 AM.