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Old 09-16-2011, 11:00 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Years ago with my ex, I once asked for a BJ while we were in the mood. She got a little miffed, but complied and said not to ask, as that is something she should decide to give. We were young, but I never verbally asked again , found different ways.

now that im married, i still have that little tiff in my mind. My question is anyone know of a tactful way to ask for a BJ? Wife likes to give them, but i only get them once in a blue moon. I on the other hand love giving her oral, and she loves it

Just looking for another way to ask with out actually saying, "can I get a BJ?" <- makes me feel like a 15yr nerd on a date
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Old 09-16-2011, 11:47 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Feel like that 15year old nerd. You never know till you try. Dont let past experiences prevent you from asking a simple question to your wife.

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Old 09-17-2011, 12:12 AM   #3 (permalink)
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My husband never asks, but I don't expect him to. He just starts inching up to my mouth LOL I love it...If he asked, that would be weird.

But if he TOLD me, then that's hot.

"Suck my....." is usually what I like, LOL.
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Old 09-17-2011, 12:37 AM   #4 (permalink)
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I think the approach you're looking for is to waggle it at her, and say "Hey baby! It's not going to suck itself, you know?"

Let us know how that works for you, k?

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My H normally uses ermm body language I guess you'd call it. When we're both revved up, he might give me a verbal cue/instruction like "Go get the honey" and I know what he has in mind. He might tell me he wants my mouth wrapped around him. Or maybe he'll say, "Come give me a kiss" but it's in a sexy, playful tone that I understand. Occasionally I might play naive and start kissing his mouth and give him the innocent eyes, before eventually dropping to my knees. Usually he gives the physical cues though.
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Old 09-17-2011, 01:41 AM   #6 (permalink)
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I want a blowjob. That's as tactful as it gets. For some reason asking rarely is answered with a yes and when it is the quality is utterly lacking. Telling works far better, just do it playfully in the moment and don't act bothered if you get rejected.
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Old 09-17-2011, 03:10 AM   #7 (permalink)
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How to ask her "tactfully" for a BJ ?

Yeah, here is what you need to do.
  • First time heat her up.
  • Get out of bed, near the bed, you standing.
  • Command her to come to you (she has to stay almost on the edge of the bed)
  • Grab her by the head, preferably from the back of her head. Most women love that.
  • Hold her tight and look into her eyes and command her: "suck it".
  • Move her head until you penis is inside her mouth pleasing you.

P.S. Some women might complain at first, but they eventually learn to love it. Damn society that we live in, women are afraid to even be submissive. So sad ...

Remember, In bed, she is your slu_t. Behave like it.
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How to ask her "tactfully" for a BJ ?

Yeah, here is what you need to do.
  • First time heat her up.
  • Get out of bed, near the bed, you standing.
  • Command her to come to you (she has to stay almost on the edge of the bed)
  • Grab her by the head, preferably from the back of her head. Most women love that.
  • Hold her tight and look into her eyes and command her: "suck it".
  • Move her head until you penis is inside her mouth pleasing you.

P.S. Some women might complain at first, but they eventually learn to love it. Damn society that we live in, women are afraid to even be submissive. So sad ...

Remember, In bed, she is your slu_t. Behave like it.
Are you joking? Most women do not like to be treated like prostitutes. If my husband commands me to blow him, he gets nothing. I don't think a husband should even have to ask for a BJ; the wife should provide them. Same goes for hubbies.
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LOL I like being treated like a prostitute...he's my beyotch too in bed. He doesn't grab my head but he can be pretty aggressive. lol.

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Old 09-17-2011, 09:44 AM   #10 (permalink)
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I said "most women", not all.

Aggression can be fun, but only to a certain point. I am sensitive to being commanded to do sexual things...reminds me of the sexual abuse I have suffered.
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Usually a gentle push in the right direction is all it takes. She's kissing me face to face, I put a little pressure on the shoulders, and its as easy as that. Works for me too if she's getting impatient with how slowly I'm working my way down... or up (she has goddess legs). Since we make a point of making out every night, the subtle body language is the key for understanding if either of us want it to go all the way.
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Old 09-17-2011, 10:58 AM   #12 (permalink)
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Wow. I can't say I agree with some of the more aggressive suggestions, but that would just be me.

You have to feel out your wife, I think, and see what happens when you approach her in different ways. Obviously, some women like the more dominant, he-man approach while others would be completely turned off by that.

Don't push it too much - just make it more light-hearted and be good natured about it. If it doesn't happen, then don't get bent out of shape as that just reinforces or starts to create an aversion in your wife to the act. Be persuasive, not coercive with her.

Being a husband that a wife loves and respects also goes a long way toward having a wife that will want to do things that please you.

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I just shake it around her face until she gets the hint. Of course she expects some oral in return. I'm all about fair trade.
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