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99% of the time I take a shower just before sex. I like being super clean and fresh and I would be ummm - self conscious if I didn't. My W is the same. This is our routine.
FYI: I take two kinds of showers at night. A two minute version - which means we aren't having sex. And a longer - clean room version when we are. She DID have to tell me this - about 15 years ago. She told me once. I turned bright red - apologized and have been a clean nut ever since.
Yup...happened to me that way, and I said to myself that it would never happen again.
I know my wife likes me super clean... she's said it. Not sure why the message doesn't get through that I like the same...again, for more intense intimacy. I'll take her anyway for a rough and tumble quickie...(although those are few and far between)
Yup...happened to me that way, and I said to myself that it would never happen again.
I know my wife likes me super clean... she's said it. Not sure why the message doesn't get through that I like the same...again, for more intense intimacy. I'll take her anyway for a rough and tumble quickie...(although those are few and far between)
Maybe she doesn't want to encourage that more intense intimacy and uses the lack of hygiene as a buffer.
Or maybe she's one of those people who is totally oblivious to everything except what they want.
I'd probably just wipe her down myself, and make it part of the process.
I would be humiliated if my husband had to ask me to take a shower before sex! I always just do it, this is how I became a night time shower taker
I wonder if she didn't just get embarrassed and doesn't want to start showering at night just because you said? Maybe she'll start on her own after a little time has passed.
Hmmm, you've told her numerous times, in a discreet / gentle way, to take a shower before sex and I don't understand why she doesn't comply. !
she doesnt comply because she doesnt want to and you continue to have sex with her. there are no negative consequences for ignoring your VERY reasonable request.
not not saying stop having sex with her because she doesnt shower. im saying stop having sex with you when you cant stand the smell and her tell her why. why should you put yourself through that. ewwwwww. P*ssies can be some of the smelliest things on earth.
she doesnt comply because she doesnt want to and you continue to have sex with her. there are no negative consequences for ignoring your VERY reasonable request.
not not saying stop having sex with her because she doesnt shower. im saying stop having sex with you when you cant stand the smell and her tell her why. why should you put yourself through that. ewwwwww. P*ssies can be some of the smelliest things on earth.
You're right...I've got to deal with why I get nervous bringing it up consistently... am I embarrassed for her? am I afraid of the potential rejection or argument? am I afraid of hurting her feelings? I honestly don't know.
funky a$$ is an interesting way to put it too. After intimacy, I want to wash my hands with a smile...not an ewwww...
If you want to illustrate what its like for you, since she is NOT getting the picture and any grown woman should, then slip her the stinky pinky and rub it under her nose afterwards. THEN ask her if she thinks she needs to shower before you put anything else, like ur face down there
I just laughed so hard I almost blew snot on my keyboard!
Originally Posted by janesmith View Post
If you want to illustrate what its like for you, since she is NOT getting the picture and any grown woman should, then slip her the stinky pinky and rub it under her nose afterwards. THEN ask her if she thinks she needs to shower before you put anything else, like ur face down there
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Originally Posted by Bottled Up
I just laughed so hard I almost blew snot on my keyboard!
LOL...I didn't see that originally, but it's a very creative way of pointing out what I was talking about and not able to articulate nearly as well.
Still have to figure out why I'm resistant to bring it up consistently.
Before the military my husband was a shower nut. One when he got up, one after his run mid day, a night before bed and after sex! Craziest thing I have ever seen. This has nothing to do with female cleanliness but I sometimes wish he would shower less. He spends more than two hours in the shower a day!
Before the military my husband was a shower nut. One when he got up, one after his run mid day, a night before bed and after sex! Craziest thing I have ever seen. This has nothing to do with female cleanliness but I sometimes wish he would shower less. He spends more than two hours in the shower a day!
Holy cow, I hope y'all don't live in the desert.
Yeah I shower once a day... sometimes twice if I do a double work out. Personally I find my skin dries up a bit if I have too many showers.
Though I do love that clean feeling, and I know my wife appreciates it.
My favorite is when we are both super clean and we lay side by side. Well my motor is pretty much running all the time, but that puts me in overdrive fast!
So how would you handle this? A nightly shower is part of my routine every night. I like to go to bed clean whether intimacy is on the docket or not. On the days when I get up extremely early, I think showering at night is more efficient. I can roll out of bed and get ready and go to work at 5am without waking her up.
the OP is just like my wife, whereas I am a morning showerer. She thinks going to bed without showering is just gross. I suppose it's just how everyone is raised.
I've learned to adapt.. I'd rather change my showering habits than not get laid!
One way I can tell if she really wants me is if she initiates even when I haven't' showered. It's happened, but it's rare. Maybe that means she's ovulating?
Opposite sex, similar problem. Husband will only bathe twice a week, smokes and drinks. I have asked him to at least wash up....he likes oral, but if he tastes like an ashtray and smells like a bus station urinal.....well, I'm not interested......then I get to hear what a B....h I am. He had a prostectomy three years ago and has minimal erections, but still has his sex drive......he always showers in the morning, but is never interested then...I don't think it is really about sex for him, but about who is calling the shots......
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