Husband wants to have sex with a man
I am basically just here to be able to talk to someone about this because I can't talk to any of my friends - my husband would be mortified.
Recently he came to me and told me he has been having a lot of thoughts about having sex with a man. He doesn't want to have a relationship, he just wants to have sex. He was really worried if he told me I would think he was flawed and leave him (we have been married 18 years). He said he felt better just being able to tell me about it and he wish he didn't have these feelings, etc. etc.
A while later (a few weeks) he told me these feelings weren't going away and basically asked me for permission to "try it." Through several conversations, it seems he just wants to find someone like him (straight/married) that would want to get together a few times a year and have sex.
Is this a common thing? He makes it sound like there are guys out there all over the place just waiting to hook up with other guys. And if I let him do this, I am worried I will eventually resent it, or think less of him as a man, or something. I am pretty open, but this is stretching it a bit for me. I broached the subject of an open marriage to see if that what he was angling for, but he said no - he couldn't handle me having sex with other guys.
I am just not really sure what to think and needed someone to talk to.