Sex in MarriageSexual problems are common in many relationships. This section is for discussions about sexuality. Please limit discussions to those asking for help with a problem and those offering advice. Any other threads may be deleted.
not sure y, but sad to say asians have statistically one the lowest sex drive! taking us for instance, i want more but she's just aint giving any. hates the statistic of 10 times a year but such is the case for us now, am 30 and she's only 28. we should be in our prime but it aint happening...
not sure y, but sad to say asians have statistically one the lowest sex drive! taking us for instance, i want more but she's just aint giving any. hates the statistic of 10 times a year but such is the case for us now, am 30 and she's only 28. we should be in our prime but it aint happening...
A lot of Asian women have high libido too. I am one of them. I don't know why. When I was little, my mother took me to a fortune teller, the man said I would be more successful if I were a man. Maybe I have a woman's body, but a man's gens! I am joking! I don't know! Whatever, my parents gave me this brain, this face, this body. Thank them for making me this way. My husband loves the way I am!
A lot of Asian women have high libido too. I am one of them. I don't know why. When I was little, my mother took me to a fortune teller, the man said I would be more successful if I were a man. Maybe I have a woman's body, but a man's gens! I am joking! I don't know! Whatever, my parents gave me this brain, this face, this body. Thank them for making me this way. My husband loves the way I am!
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am envious of ur hubby. however, coming from malaysia, sadly sex is still very much a taboo, and especially ladies with high sexual libido is often given the frown instead the nod... sadly though wifey currently falls into this category. it has come to a point where i have more or less even stopped requesting her for sex coz tired of being disappointed all the time, and it's not entirely fun doing while the other feels as if being forced to do it just to please me...
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am envious of ur hubby. however, coming from malaysia, sadly sex is still very much a taboo, and especially ladies with high sexual libido is often given the frown instead the nod... sadly though wifey currently falls into this category. it has come to a point where i have more or less even stopped requesting her for sex coz tired of being disappointed all the time, and it's not entirely fun doing while the other feels as if being forced to do it just to please me...
Feel sorry for your situation. Sex is taboo in China and Taiwan, too. Once a Chinese woman started a thread on a forum asking how much sex the women have, most of the replies were very little, and a lot of them can't orgasm.
Feel sorry for your situation. Sex is taboo in China and Taiwan, too. Once a Chinese woman started a thread on a forum asking how much sex the women have, most of the replies were very little, and a lot of them can't orgasm.
take today for example, came back around 7, waited for wifey to be back around 930, had dinner, came back, bathed, and she's now snoring beside me while am typing this!
the thing is, she's had been bz lately with her new job. i give her all the space n support she needs. we love each other very much, however it pains me whenever i see the frustration/agitated feel i get from her when my approaches are towards sex. too many occasions when she said lets wait for tonite or lets do it later which do not really materialize... even more painful when the thrill builds up but no where to get it released in the end...
other than that, we're doing pretty ok, just this lack of sex that is pretty hard for me however not for her. sometimes it makes me wonder whether i am the actual one at fault for having such high sex drive
i just cant figure it out, we have sex once in a blue moon n i can tell she's enjoying it, but she just do not have the "need" for it, i just wonder y
take today for example, came back around 7, waited for wifey to be back around 930, had dinner, came back, bathed, and she's now snoring beside me while am typing this!
the thing is, she's had been bz lately with her new job. i give her all the space n support she needs. we love each other very much, however it pains me whenever i see the frustration/agitated feel i get from her when my approaches are towards sex. too many occasions when she said lets wait for tonite or lets do it later which do not really materialize... even more painful when the thrill builds up but no where to get it released in the end...
other than that, we're doing pretty ok, just this lack of sex that is pretty hard for me however not for her. sometimes it makes me wonder whether i am the actual one at fault for having such high sex drive
i just cant figure it out, we have sex once in a blue moon n i can tell she's enjoying it, but she just do not have the "need" for it, i just wonder y
I don't understand them either. To me, sex is just a wonderful thing to have as a human being, but a lot of women don't like it. They would rather have an LV or a beautiful dress. Maybe they haven't figured out how to enjoy it. Maybe they are bothered and stressed by life, they have no mood for it. Women tend to be bothered easily. I can have high libido because I have learned not to let small things bother me, so I am almost always in a happy mood. When you are happy, you tend to want to have sex.
Just feel a lot of women have given up the fun of being a woman, and they drive their men crazy!
I don't understand them either. To me, sex is just a wonderful thing to have as a human being, but a lot of women don't like it. They would rather have an LV or a beautiful dress. Maybe they haven't figured out how to enjoy it. Maybe they are bothered and stressed by life, they have no mood for it. Women tend to be bothered easily. I can have high libido because I have learned not to let small things bother me, so I am almost always in a happy mood. When you are happy, you tend to want to have sex.
Just feel a lot of women have given up the fun of being a woman, and they drive their men crazy!
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hey, where r u based? if u ever come to malaysia, we should hook up, n maybe u can try to explain this to wifey, coz outta 365 days, she has no mood for 350 days!!!
well, i did get her an LV purse on my last visit to paris. i was there for our company's exhibition 2 years back, was there for 1 week. it was during that moment when i got back that we made love for 3 times on that day! it was really the moment of my life! sadly that was the 1st n the last time of pure 1-day intimacy and it was nearly back to square 1 soon after...
i wonder if i shud go away again for some time just to re-live that moment...
hey, where r u based? if u ever come to malaysia, we should hook up, n maybe u can try to explain this to wifey, coz outta 365 days, she has no mood for 350 days!!!
well, i did get her an LV purse on my last visit to paris. i was there for our company's exhibition 2 years back, was there for 1 week. it was during that moment when i got back that we made love for 3 times on that day! it was really the moment of my life! sadly that was the 1st n the last time of pure 1-day intimacy and it was nearly back to square 1 soon after...
i wonder if i shud go away again for some time just to re-live that moment...
I am from China. I live in Taiwan. My husband is from Canada. Both of us are teachers here. We get paid by hours. So the good thing about us is we don't work 8 hours a day, and two hours on the road. We work three hours a day, our most tiring days are 6 hours. It only takes us 10 minutes to go to work. And we enjoy good hour pay. No kids. So we have a lot of time together, and financially we have no stress( we live a simple life even though we make good money). So please don't use us as an example. Plus, we are not easily offended and bothered, my husband and I hardly get upset with each other. We don't have other family problems. The only problem I have is we are far from our families, I don't get to visit them on weekends. But on weekends my husband and I go window shopping, drink tea, or take a ride to the mountains. Our life is pretty care free.
Sorry about all the information. I think good mood leads to good sex. You bought her an LV, you were away for two weeks, and you got to have great sex with her. Maybe you can create this kind of situation again, but it doesn't solve the problem, you can't buy her LVs all the time, you can't travel all the time. I don't know if you are able to help her achieve a peaceful mind. And tell her sex is important to men, men without sex will go insane and start cheating. Does she want to lose her husband?????? If the answer is no, then she'd better spread her legs and let you have some fun. I don't care it is what what what. She is your wife, she should fulfill her duty as a wife. Her body is not just hers. Just like your body is not yours, you have to provide for her, she should satisfy your needs, unless she wants to risk losing you!
My wife is Malay Chinese but moved here when she was like 9 or so. And when we 1st met, we were having sex like rabbits. It died down to almost nothing after we had kids, maybe once a month if I was lucky.
I just kept at it and basically talked and talked and talked to her until she opened up and gave me reasons as to her dying sex desire for me. Fixed some things and we're back to 2 or 3 times a week. Still not enough for me but hey can't really complain can I.
Also, I had to re-attach my balls at one point to get her to open up. But I've gently had to put my balls back away for now since I'm getting sex again. Hopefully I'll just have to dust them off once in a while to get things that I want
My wife is Malay Chinese but moved here when she was like 9 or so. And when we 1st met, we were having sex like rabbits. It died down to almost nothing after we had kids, maybe once a month if I was lucky.
I just kept at it and basically talked and talked and talked to her until she opened up and gave me reasons as to her dying sex desire for me. Fixed some things and we're back to 2 or 3 times a week. Still not enough for me but hey can't really complain can I.
Also, I had to re-attach my balls at one point to get her to open up. But I've gently had to put my balls back away for now since I'm getting sex again. Hopefully I'll just have to dust them off once in a while to get things that I want
YES, be brave and tell her that she has to fulfill her duty. Don't let her have the way she wants. Women think a marriage certificate gives them the right to do whatever they want to, it is wrong to think like that, just tell her directly what makes you happy and what might drive you away. Before she loses you, give her a warning!
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greenpearl, she's out having her audits today and she wore a pretty black dress. told her she was pretty and i miss her a lot... she has been close to 12 hours away for work for the past 2-3 month and the only time remaining is for meals and a good nite rest.
however for sure i would not take the 1st step in initiating sex this time, and our last session was some time in august. she knows she has been guilty in not really tending to me for awhile now so lets see what tricks she'll have up her sleeves this time!
nevertheless, sex or not, am trying to plan for a weekend get away, while i will surely not show my desperado look, the inner child in me is jumping with excitement with the chance of getting laid this weekend!hahahahaha
@cheatinghubby,
we used to be like that too, that was way back when we just started dating, in the mornings when we wake up i will give her a good service, in the nite we will continue with something notty! but that was years ago. so when i confronted her the last time, she told me that she just do not have the feel to be intimate so often now. there's nothing wrong with us physically, and our relationship is still going strong, but it came to a point where i just gave in to her request and have since stopped asking her for sex. i want her to do it coz she wants it, not because i want it whereby she does it just to please me, there is no fun in that i believe
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greenpearl, she's out having her audits today and she wore a pretty black dress. told her she was pretty and i miss her a lot... she has been close to 12 hours away for work for the past 2-3 month and the only time remaining is for meals and a good nite rest.
however for sure i would not take the 1st step in initiating sex this time, and our last session was some time in august. she knows she has been guilty in not really tending to me for awhile now so lets see what tricks she'll have up her sleeves this time!
nevertheless, sex or not, am trying to plan for a weekend get away, while i will surely not show my desperado look, the inner child in me is jumping with excitement with the chance of getting laid this weekend!hahahahaha
@cheatinghubby,
we used to be like that too, that was way back when we just started dating, in the mornings when we wake up i will give her a good service, in the nite we will continue with something notty! but that was years ago. so when i confronted her the last time, she told me that she just do not have the feel to be intimate so often now. there's nothing wrong with us physically, and our relationship is still going strong, but it came to a point where i just gave in to her request and have since stopped asking her for sex. i want her to do it coz she wants it, not because i want it whereby she does it just to please me, there is no fun in that i believe
Agree.
If a woman feels insecure in a marriage, she will try harder to get what she wants. Before you were married, you could get so much, because she wanted you to marry her. As soon as they get married, they feel their position is secure, they stop doing a lot of the good things to please their husbands, instead, they started nagging and complaining. That's why men like mistresses, because they try harder to keep you and they don't dare to nag. Married wives should realize this. Where do you conquer your husband? Conquer him in bed!!!! Too bad a lot of women don't know that.
If a woman feels insecure in a marriage, she will try harder to get what she wants. Before you were married, you could get so much, because she wanted you to marry her. As soon as they get married, they feel their position is secure, they stop doing a lot of the good things to please their husbands, instead, they started nagging and complaining. That's why men like mistresses, because they try harder to keep you and they don't dare to nag. Married wives should realize this. Where do you conquer your husband? Conquer him in bed!!!! Too bad a lot of women don't know that.
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believe it or not, what we normally hear here is that once the ring is on the finger, it is the HUBBY who tends to neglect the wife and not the other way. i guess what u say is true, there are chances that she might be slightly guilty in taking the easy way out sometimes.
for me, mistresses are totally outta question, love her too much to hurt her this way. i even told her the truth that, for reasons that i myself cant explain, i dont even fantasize about any other gals except for her. call me greenhorn in our relationship but i just cant bring myself to pleasure anyone else other than her
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