OK so now that the "newness factor" has worn off he does not find you attractive because you are fat.
This really does not change much as the answer is still the same as I said before. "You have a choice, either accept that you will be fat and he will not find you attractive, or lose the fat. It is all up to you."
Why are you ignoring the fact that you can lose the fat if him finding you attractive is important to you? You can talk to him all you want but that will not change what he finds attractive. He has told you that he loves you and has not made an issue of it, but you keep trying to change him instead of you working to improve yourself.
I will be blunt and tell you that it is time for you to put up or shut up. You will never be able to nag him into finding you attractive, so stop trying.
@TRy: Uh... okay?
My point in saying that he was attracted to me before SHOWS he's not bothered by me being fat. As a matter of fact he's told me he doesn't place emphasis on body type anyway, I'm just mentioning that because of my own insecurities.
I'm just really confused why you're putting so much emphasis on my being fat, like it's so out of the realm of possibility that someone could ever be attracted to a fat person? I mean come on. What the real issue is, is that he WAS attracted to me for a decent period of time and now he isn't, and I'm the same size now as I was then.
And believe me, if it was as cut and dry as 'go to the gym, not fat anymore', I'd be all for it because tbh, being fat is uncomfortable- but there are a lot of disability issues I have- mainly, a spinal condition, that prevents me from doing the strenuous activity required to 'hit the gym'... so before you start insulting me and saying that it's my fault for being fat and he just finds me gross, maybe you should think that perhaps there's more to it.
@coldshoulder: We do spend time together, yes, but it is mostly hanging out around the house. He works a lot of weird shifts (retail hours) whereas my job is days only. He is usually tired when he works late, but on nights he's home at a decent time (around when I get home) we usually eat dinner together, play video games together, watch TV together (we like to watch Tosh.0 because we can both just laugh and feel silly). He usually goes with me everywhere he can anyway (even to the store) in case I need help, but also (I like to think, anyway) that he just likes to come along for company.
We have had a marked decrease in 'fun events' because of my spinal condition- Ren Faires, cedar point, concerts, etc- I just can't stand/walk that much- but we have started playing a fun card game together that he's been teaching me to play and working with me on (Magic:The Gathering, if you're familiar)... which, I might add, that I picked up as an interest because I knew he liked to play it and I thought it would help us have a common interest. Turns out I like it, who knew. Regardless- I'm trying, but a lot of the issue is he'll say that I never do what he wants to do and it's always what I want to do, but when we are talking about what to do, he's always, "I dunno, whatever" and never offers up suggestions or anything.
I just forwarded him a list of things to do (by Mort Fertel) and hopefully he'll think they're worth doing together. (stuff like make a point to compliment, go out to eat together, cook dinner for one another, etc)