Re: Need help - no longer attracted to wife
There are 12 step groups for porn addiction and other types of addiction that meet every week, even multiple times a week. They do work, but actually, you have to do the work.
First step, don't look at porn. When you want to look at it, go for a walk, or call someone in the group. Better yet, start reading that website CynthiaDe linked for you. You will discover other ways porn has shaped (ruined?) your sex life.
Your wife sounds like a great woman. You've always loved her, even with the extra pounds. Now her breasts are smaller, for medical reasons, and you are considering all kinds of alternatives that will not only ruin your life, but hers. That is not sane thinking. What will you do if she ever gets breast cancer and has to have them removed all together....forget all the love and good years you had together?
She has loved you with lots of extra pounds, severe acne, and bright red hair (not that there is anything wrong with bright red hair on a guy, per se.) If you lose her through selfishness and immaturity, your chances are slim of finding someone else of her caliber who will love you.
If I were your wife, and I had a surgery like your wife's and found out that you were not only not attracted to me, but were considering going to strip bars for sex and you were wishing you could "open" the marriage so you could have sex with other women for their breasts, I would kick you out in a second and not take you back!
You had better get control of your mind, because you are a ticking time bomb.