Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: The Frozen North
Re: Need help - no longer attracted to wife
Reality check here:
The BR surgery was absolutely necessary, otherwise you would be looking at back surgery within 10 years and probably long term disability within 20. So pull your head out of your ass, the surgery likely saved her from a wheelchair, if not spinal fusion. (Former GF with a massive rack, whose husband threatened divorce if she underwent the surgery. Too late, required spinal fusion due to degenerative disk disease exacerbated by being pulled forward constantly by two overfilled water bags on her chest)
Next: Both of you need to drop the weight. (I know, former 325lb 5'10" Half-back - Canadian Football), now 198lbs and having the most fun in decades. Here is something that will keep you up nights: I didn't know I was diabetic until I hit the ER in the middle of a heart attack. That is what obesity does. Give it a decade or so, and you will not have to worry about being attracted to your wife, obesity, and diabetes adds up to erectile dysfunction.
Your wife's colorectal issues may also be diet related.