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post #16 of 25 (permalink) Old 03-24-2016, 12:19 AM
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and toying with the body chemicals that keep someone in a Stockholm Syndrome type addictive state....

NO thank you, not for me, that is a dangerous game... This is the first time reading your post, which most of them I skip, where I now realize you are strategically feeding an addiction. That "high" that you get before orgasm that you are now choosing to elongate to stay on the "high" is actually an addiction to those chemicals. Just so you are aware of what you are doing....

Carry on...

Stockholm? WTF how on earth do you arrive at Stockholm? Vinny has a power exchange relationship with his wife. Not captive, not abusive, not coerced, he agreed after 30 years of near sexual freedom.

As a person who was in a constant state of arousal for about 7-10 years prior to menopause I would like to see a credible source for this claim.



@Viinydee, I have heard this from other men who wear a chastity device, that when their climax is not on the menu they become engrossed in their partners responses but even better is that their partners also become completely focused on their own pleasure.

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Interesting. I did that 35 years ago and my wife asked her girlfriend to have sex with me and then eventually moved her in so that I had two women to share the load, so to speak. Funny how wives have different reactions.

Four years ago we moved away from the woman who my wife shared me with so we were a couple again and had the same problem of my libido being much greater than that of my wife. Her solution this time was to ask me to buy one of those new chastity devices found in online drug stores and sex shops, designed to prevent masturbation. I did and have been wearing one 24/7 for the last 4 years. My wife is OK with porn but still has old time thinking that masturbation is wrong. She said that I owed her a few thousand orgasms since she gave me full access to her girlfriend at any time with or without my wife taking part. I agree. Not many men get to have threesomes as their regular marital sex for 30 years. I have had more threesomes than porn stars. So I agreed that sex would now be for my wife's orgasms only until she feels that I can have one. So it has been that way. I have waited as long as 3 months for an orgasm while my wife enjoys several each week. We still have sex the same way but the only difference is that we skip the 10 seconds of my orgasm. She is an expert at bringing me to the edge and then stopping, over and over again.

My wife is enjoying having sex focus on just her for a change. I used to be the focus of all of our sex and she shared me with her best friend so I had more sex than she did. Now it is time to pay the piper and i am fine with that. I enjoy the sexual arousal that comes with anticipating an orgasm more than the orgasm itself. Last night she allowed me to orgasm aftre 5 weeks of chastity. It was good but now I have lost the sexual energy and constant feeling of sexual arousal that I had before my orgasm. As usual I regret having the orgasm. 10 seconds of pleasure is not worth giving up how I felt when I was denied and then edged over and over again by my wife. We will start again after my wife's surgery next week. I rarely stay unlocked for long. Hard to explain but I feel like I used to when I was dating and waiting all week to find out if I was going to get some from whoever I was dating at the time. The nervousness and uncertainty.

For us, chastity play was a way to deal with our differing libidos. I had to stop masturbating because it was eating up too much of my time and making regular sex feel boring. My wife is not a porn start who has piercings and can put her high healed feet behind her head and then flip over into various positions for the next hour or so. With porn, you end up needing more and more extreme stuff to get the same benefit. Now just looking at my wife's cleavage arouses me. Only getting my orgasms from my wife is one of the most exciting thigns I have experiences. You do not need an chastity device to do this either. You can go on the honor system. That is how we initially tried it and what I do when I get the occasional skin problems. I have learned to not masturbate whether locked up or not.
I am waiting for the day I come to this forum and do not see this story posted somewhere on this forum. Seriously dude enough. We get it and it is just getting tired and old.
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TX-SC is right... I think most women don't realize the fact that masturbation is probably the bulk of a guy's "sex life" and would be shocked to learn that

I actually suggest that my ex-BF should do it and I told him that I find it hot if he did.

I even showed him how to do it-(since he never really did it b4).

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While my wife and I struggled with our sex life (meh, still struggling) we planned to have sex one morning. That morning she decided against it so I went in to shower and took care of myself. She then showered, came out and invited me to bed. I explained to her that I was all set since she told me sex was off so I masturbated in the shower.

She was flabbergasted. It never occurred to her that I masturbated. She said that she wanted me to save all my orgasms for her. I explained to her that I had been masturbating since I was 10 and unless she was ready to meet my sexual needs (3-4 times a week while we were struggling to get it done once per week) then I'd continue masturbating.

TX-SC is right... I think most women don't realize the fact that masturbation is probably the bulk of a guy's "sex life" and would be shocked to learn that.
Similar experience here, in my marriage. I don't think my wife realized how often us guys do this, or why.

Once she did, I think a little competitiveness came over her, much the same way somebody reacts when their partner gets hit on. Basically, mate-guarding, which is funny, because she mate-guards me from myself!

I've learned to be a bit more open about it, and although I still don't try to get caught, if I do, it often leads to some good times.

She's still very LD, but I'm glad she sees it in a positive light. I've seen one too many posts on this board about people with LD spouses who get upset, or downright angry, if their HD spouse masturbates. Hell, my LD wife masturbates occasionally, and although it DOES bother me a little (as in, she has much less interest in sex than I do, so why not save it for me?) I still recognize it as being healthy, normal, and also as something that is quite different than sex with your partner.
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Solo masturbation is very rare for me. I guess I'm just not in the norm. Of course, it could be that my wife is a willing partner whenever I get aroused. I much prefer the real thing, and it's very rare for me to ever feel the need to MB solo, and I consider myself very HD.

There's nothing wrong with it. I just rarely feel the need.
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Interesting. I did that 35 years ago and my wife asked her girlfriend to have sex with me and then eventually moved her in so that I had two women to share the load, so to speak. Funny how wives have different reactions.

Four years ago we moved away from the woman who my wife shared me with so we were a couple again and had the same problem of my libido being much greater than that of my wife. Her solution this time was to ask me to buy one of those new chastity devices found in online drug stores and sex shops, designed to prevent masturbation. I did and have been wearing one 24/7 for the last 4 years. My wife is OK with porn but still has old time thinking that masturbation is wrong. She said that I owed her a few thousand orgasms since she gave me full access to her girlfriend at any time with or without my wife taking part. I agree. Not many men get to have threesomes as their regular marital sex for 30 years. I have had more threesomes than porn stars. So I agreed that sex would now be for my wife's orgasms only until she feels that I can have one. So it has been that way. I have waited as long as 3 months for an orgasm while my wife enjoys several each week. We still have sex the same way but the only difference is that we skip the 10 seconds of my orgasm. She is an expert at bringing me to the edge and then stopping, over and over again.

My wife is enjoying having sex focus on just her for a change. I used to be the focus of all of our sex and she shared me with her best friend so I had more sex than she did. Now it is time to pay the piper and i am fine with that. I enjoy the sexual arousal that comes with anticipating an orgasm more than the orgasm itself. Last night she allowed me to orgasm aftre 5 weeks of chastity. It was good but now I have lost the sexual energy and constant feeling of sexual arousal that I had before my orgasm. As usual I regret having the orgasm. 10 seconds of pleasure is not worth giving up how I felt when I was denied and then edged over and over again by my wife. We will start again after my wife's surgery next week. I rarely stay unlocked for long. Hard to explain but I feel like I used to when I was dating and waiting all week to find out if I was going to get some from whoever I was dating at the time. The nervousness and uncertainty.

For us, chastity play was a way to deal with our differing libidos. I had to stop masturbating because it was eating up too much of my time and making regular sex feel boring. My wife is not a porn start who has piercings and can put her high healed feet behind her head and then flip over into various positions for the next hour or so. With porn, you end up needing more and more extreme stuff to get the same benefit. Now just looking at my wife's cleavage arouses me. Only getting my orgasms from my wife is one of the most exciting thigns I have experiences. You do not need an chastity device to do this either. You can go on the honor system. That is how we initially tried it and what I do when I get the occasional skin problems. I have learned to not masturbate whether locked up or not.
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While my wife and I struggled with our sex life (meh, still struggling) we planned to have sex one morning. That morning she decided against it so I went in to shower and took care of myself. She then showered, came out and invited me to bed. I explained to her that I was all set since she told me sex was off so I masturbated in the shower.

She was flabbergasted. It never occurred to her that I masturbated. She said that she wanted me to save all my orgasms for her. I explained to her that I had been masturbating since I was 10 and unless she was ready to meet my sexual needs (3-4 times a week while we were struggling to get it done once per week) then I'd continue masturbating.

TX-SC is right... I think most women don't realize the fact that masturbation is probably the bulk of a guy's "sex life" and would be shocked to learn that.
Sounds like my wife. Maybe I should arrange a scenario like yours where I could let her know as well that her maybe once a week is not realistic.

As others have stated she might be hurt in a competitive sort of way but maybe a light would go on.

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Which model? I mean, umm, what are those?

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@Viinydee, I have heard this from other men who wear a chastity device, that when their climax is not on the menu they become engrossed in their partners responses but even better is that their partners also become completely focused on their own pleasure.
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While my wife and I struggled with our sex life (meh, still struggling) we planned to have sex one morning. That morning she decided against it so I went in to shower and took care of myself. She then showered, came out and invited me to bed. I explained to her that I was all set since she told me sex was off so I masturbated in the shower.

She was flabbergasted. It never occurred to her that I masturbated. She said that she wanted me to save all my orgasms for her. I explained to her that I had been masturbating since I was 10 and unless she was ready to meet my sexual needs (3-4 times a week while we were struggling to get it done once per week) then I'd continue masturbating.

TX-SC is right... I think most women don't realize the fact that masturbation is probably the bulk of a guy's "sex life" and would be shocked to learn that.
I think most women know this. It's common knowledge to me.
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I think most women know this. It's common knowledge to me.
I agree. Further, I think if a wife is surprised that her husband masturbates a couple of times per week, she clearly has some learning to do about sexuality.

My husband doesn't masturbate very often because I want his sexual energy. Very rarely do I ever turn him down and usually I want sex more often than he does. I masturbate more often than he does!

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