Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: Southern USA, but longtime NYC boy prior to our move.
Re: A horrible practical joke!
Interesting. I did that 35 years ago and my wife asked her girlfriend to have sex with me and then eventually moved her in so that I had two women to share the load, so to speak. Funny how wives have different reactions.
Four years ago we moved away from the woman who my wife shared me with so we were a couple again and had the same problem of my libido being much greater than that of my wife. Her solution this time was to ask me to buy one of those new chastity devices found in online drug stores and sex shops, designed to prevent masturbation. I did and have been wearing one 24/7 for the last 4 years. My wife is OK with porn but still has old time thinking that masturbation is wrong. She said that I owed her a few thousand orgasms since she gave me full access to her girlfriend at any time with or without my wife taking part. I agree. Not many men get to have threesomes as their regular marital sex for 30 years. I have had more threesomes than porn stars. So I agreed that sex would now be for my wife's orgasms only until she feels that I can have one. So it has been that way. I have waited as long as 3 months for an orgasm while my wife enjoys several each week. We still have sex the same way but the only difference is that we skip the 10 seconds of my orgasm. She is an expert at bringing me to the edge and then stopping, over and over again.
My wife is enjoying having sex focus on just her for a change. I used to be the focus of all of our sex and she shared me with her best friend so I had more sex than she did. Now it is time to pay the piper and i am fine with that. I enjoy the sexual arousal that comes with anticipating an orgasm more than the orgasm itself. Last night she allowed me to orgasm aftre 5 weeks of chastity. It was good but now I have lost the sexual energy and constant feeling of sexual arousal that I had before my orgasm. As usual I regret having the orgasm. 10 seconds of pleasure is not worth giving up how I felt when I was denied and then edged over and over again by my wife. We will start again after my wife's surgery next week. I rarely stay unlocked for long. Hard to explain but I feel like I used to when I was dating and waiting all week to find out if I was going to get some from whoever I was dating at the time. The nervousness and uncertainty.
For us, chastity play was a way to deal with our differing libidos. I had to stop masturbating because it was eating up too much of my time and making regular sex feel boring. My wife is not a porn start who has piercings and can put her high healed feet behind her head and then flip over into various positions for the next hour or so. With porn, you end up needing more and more extreme stuff to get the same benefit. Now just looking at my wife's cleavage arouses me. Only getting my orgasms from my wife is one of the most exciting thigns I have experiences. You do not need an chastity device to do this either. You can go on the honor system. That is how we initially tried it and what I do when I get the occasional skin problems. I have learned to not masturbate whether locked up or not.
Many prefer to drown in a pool of their own morality rather than seek the safety of a different morality when the choice is monogamy or your marriage.