Don’t be silly, I haven't a clue what Joe's wife's thoughts are. Not a clue.
Then why is there only one solution? Not saying that you're wrong, but just as penicillin won't treat a broken leg, why is deprioritisation a panacea?
But if he keeps doing the same things he's going to keep getting the same results.
Now here you really are absolutely right. Doing nothing isn't an option, doing what he has done isn't an option - he definitely needs to do something else. All I'm wondering is why is there only one club in the golf bag?
His wife is already into MASSIVELY HABITUAL BEHAVIOUR. And that behaviour is NO SEX. Sounds to me like she’s addicted to NO SEX. And because of that she doesn’t give a fig about keeping him by her side.
I think she does - I think more than wanting to keep him there, she expects him to be there, but without a sex life.
The man has needs and she sure isn’t satisfying them!
What happens next?
His needs aren't her needs, and vice versa... Problem, that, innit? What happnes next? Nothing good.
My issue is that you frame the dissolution of the relationship as a loss ... It's Joes to win or lose if he doesn't get it 'right'.
I just don't see it that way.
Joe needs to come to terms with what 'winning' for his circumstances looks like.
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Exactly. He may have to destroy the village to save the village.
Joe needs to be totally aware that if he follows your plan he is deciding
that this is the hill he is prepared to die on
. Because if he isn't, it ain't going to work.