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Old 10-09-2011, 07:26 PM   #1 (permalink)
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One aspect of our sex life that really bothers me besides not having enough sex is that he doesn't want to ejaculate in mouth during oral sex. Is that common?

The thing is I love giving him BJ but is that a turn off for a guy to come inside a woman's mouth?
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Old 10-09-2011, 07:35 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Personally that's my dream my wife doesn't do that.

I figure any way I get it inside her is good!
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Old 10-09-2011, 07:37 PM   #3 (permalink)
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If the two of you are having full blown sex which includes a BJ before intercourse, he may want to reserve his load for intercourse. But if its just a BJ with no intercourse, then his reluctance to come inside your mouth may just be his own insecurity of letting go during orgasm.
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Old 10-09-2011, 07:38 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Maybe he just wants to kiss you later.
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Old 10-09-2011, 07:44 PM   #5 (permalink)
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And... you could ask him why and see what he says.
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Old 10-09-2011, 07:47 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I have been married to my husband for over 7 years and been together for 10 years, but I also learned that he is Bi-Curious. might that be the real reason?
I mean I figured after 10 years he could do it at least once because he knows how much I want it, I cannot keep wondering if it is because I am a woman and not a guy?
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Old 10-09-2011, 08:23 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Judging from your other post about him being bi-curious, it is a real possibility that he is gay, and he is not excited sexually by a woman.
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Old 10-09-2011, 08:51 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Not defending Brian here, but the combination of a gal wanting it (which maybe isn't all that uncommon) and a guy refusing it (which has to be very uncommon) would seem to make this situation a real outlier.
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Old 10-09-2011, 08:54 PM   #9 (permalink)
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To some husbands, it is considered disrespectful to cum in his wifes mouth even if she wants him to. Not saying thats it. Just saying it could be.
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Old 10-10-2011, 01:53 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Ignore him. He's never been with a partner, much less anyone who actually like sex.
Even you gotta admit this is almost to hard to believe.

A woman wanting it and the man refusing to do it It doesn't seem for real. I think it can very well be a man who gets off on writing a thread like this(this is the exact type of thread a perv like that would create)
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Old 10-10-2011, 02:35 AM   #11 (permalink)
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No, I don't gotta admit it's hard to believe. It's definitely in the realm of possibilities. And to be perfectly honest, I can see you in a similar situation. Refusing to believe a partner wants "xxx" simply because she's a woman, and women don't like sex and aren't sexual beings. Whether xxx is anal, cum in mouth, a threesome, or even an orgasm for that matter. I truly hope you stumble across a partner willing to teach you healthy sexual attitudes in a loving relationship early in your life.

I also don't see the titillation value for some "perv" to make up the thread. And after all, she did post back. Most trolls are one shot wonders.

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Old 10-10-2011, 06:30 AM   #12 (permalink)
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I am new guy on this forum, but I must admit that I think that some of you guys are being disrespectful. If you don't think that you have much to add to the discussed topic, you can always elect not to comment. As far as it seems, everybody has the right to bring up whatever topic they want, and you have the right choose whether you want to participate or not.

Back to the original comment - when I was new to BJ's (a long time ago!), I felt a little bit strange about ejaculating in a girls mouth because I didn't think that it was pleasant for the girl and it didn't seem natural to me.

Since then though, I have no problem with it and definitely find it a turn on. In fact, if she was to pull off before, I think that it would ruin part of the orgasm for me. To be honest with you, my wife likes it as well - it is a turn on for her.

I would talk to him to understand why he doesn't like it.
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I guess it is safe to say that it is actually a turn on for many men according to the comments, I figured it has something to do with his bi-curious side.
thanks for all the inputs.
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Old 10-12-2011, 05:59 AM   #14 (permalink)
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Most mens view on this would be along the lines of; the only way to tell the difference in a 9 and a 10 is .......wait for it.........a 10 swallows! LOL
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Maybe he just wants to kiss you later.
I can see that being a reason. My H loves it when I swallow but I can't have my head anywhere near his because he hates the smell and sure as hell doesn't wanna taste it. I have to head to the bathroom and brush/mouthwash before I head back to bed to cuddle with him again.
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