Re: Husband wants me to sleep with a stranger. Please help!
Tell him his idea is disgusting and to keep his opinion to himself. I had an ex that told me something along those lines - I was horrified. It really made me lose respect for him big time. I couldn't look at him without remembering his gruesome proposition. I never could look at him the same after he brought up his idea. Gross.
I didn't really say much to him except "no way in the fiery pits of hell will this happen". I can understand that everyone has different "tastes" etc. I can put up with some gross things coming up now and then But he kept bringing it up every time we were in the sack. Total mood killer every time. One day in bed he brought it up one time too many (if you know what I mean) and I flat out told him "That is a disgusting, vile thing to talk about. Keep it to yourself, go jerk off over it until your heart's content. But I NEVER want to hear about it again in my house". And he never brought it up again. Thank the lord! We were together for a few years after that (during which time he never uttered a word about it, thank god) until I had to get rid of him for other reasons. But yeah I never could look at him the same after he told me about that BS fantasy of his. It's like the moment he opened his mouth and those words came out, was the moment that all my respect for him instantly evaporated.
So yeah. Just something to think about next time you want to tell your partner a gruesome thing. The only advice I would give here is choose your words extremely carefully. Select words that sort of soften the impact...so instead of wanting to projectile vomit in your face, she might only experience a moderate nausea.