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Why is it men seem to be so so horny in the morning????!!!!!
GRRRRR!!!! I'm sure some of you wish you had this problem to complain about, but oi, in the morning i either want to A.sleep in and just cuddle if it's a day off B. hurridley get ready for work if i go in early (6:30am) or C. work out and run as many errands as i can tackle before work if i go in late (ie. 10:30am). yet he will not leave me alone in the mornings to a point where if i do not physically get up and leave he will not leave me alone and when i do get up and leave he gets very angry sometimes. I just plain do not want it in the mornings and it would be nice every once in awhile to be woken up this way but it's downright annoying to happen every morning!!! it's too early or have to many other things on my mind to get turned on and if i don't want it it HURTS for me!!! This results in me also feeling panicky when he tries to force this. Is this the norm for most men, i seem to have gotten the impression most men are "morning people" when it comes to this issue
I'm a morning person (woman) when it comes to sex, but I wasn't always. I feel the least stressed and rushed in the morning - strangely, I know - especially weekends, obviously, though. (Part of it is that I have a super sensitive stomach and I can't do much unless I have an empty stomach!) But it is true that hormonally, men and women don't really match: men have higher sex drive in the morning, and women at night. I'm not sure if there's much you can do about it - but maybe if you wear him out completely the night before?
My husband is a morning person too. As long as he compromises and gives me some action at night once in a while I'm ok with it. Of course, I want it much more often then him now so I guess I'll take what I can get. lol
I'm NOT a morning person. This morning he had to bribe me out of bed with a cup of tea. BUT even just seeing his "morning glory" can make my whole day. If I'm barely awake to the world and he calls me from the shower, I'm keen to get up and join him. That and/or a cup of tea helps me wake up lol.
What concerns me about your post however, is that errands and such taking a priority over intimate time with your H (even mentally). And mostly, that you said he gets angry, tries to force and that it hurts?!! ......I wouldn't want morning activity with my H if he treated me that way either. That needs to change. You might need to teach him a thing or two about female sexuality and how best to be with you, if he's being a selfish lover.
I hate morning sex because I like to sleep in and wake up just in time to get ready for work or whatever I have to do during the day. I do get morning wood, but it's not like I feel like I need it taken care of or anything. Still, my wife had difficulties accepting the fact that a boner doesn't mean I want sex. Besides in every session she never lets me go until she's satisfied.
Maybe you can try instead of just pleasuring your husband, demand pleasure yourself consistently in every session - that way he may go "ok, I want to shoot my load, but I have no time to forfill her desires as well, ok, I'll wait until tonight".