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post #1 of 47 (permalink) Old 04-27-2016, 11:00 AM Thread Starter
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Will your wife SO masturbate in front of you?

I'm not talking about for themselves, but because it turns you on to watch them play with themselves as part of foreplay. My wife is reluctant to do it and I'm wondering if this is common and I should just let it go.
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I'm not talking about for themselves, but because it turns you on to watch them play with themselves as part of foreplay. My wife is reluctant to do it and I'm wondering if this is common and I should just let it go.
Common from my vantage point.
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I'm not talking about for themselves, but because it turns you on to watch them play with themselves as part of foreplay. My wife is reluctant to do it and I'm wondering if this is common and I should just let it go.
Probably common. Start with a vibrator and you operate it if she wants while you kiss etc. Mutual masturbation / hj/ whatever.

As she gets more comfortable with this, after a few times, while you're doing it, take her hand and place it in the vibrator while you kiss her. Tell her it's ok and she knows her body better than you.

Make it safe and fun so she doesn't feel exposed or awkward
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When my wife was younger -she was reluctant to do many things. Pretty much a total prude. Candle light at the most during sex...no saying the names of the furry bits out-loud....etc. You get the picture.

Make her feel safe and accepted. This is done over time by slowly extending her comfort zone into new areas. Make it fun- make it an adventure. Study her, KNOW her and you will begin to sense when you can push and when you can't.

26 years later...my formerly young prudish wife...will try/do/experiment in ways that would make a Porn Star blush. Masturbate in front of me??? She'll do that to get my attention.

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When we first married, NO WAY!
I'd ask, but still got a 'no way'.
One time she made the remark, 'I've never seen you do yourself'.

So I proved her wrong that evening.
She changed her mind about showing me that evening as well!


Lead by example?

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I'm not talking about for themselves, but because it turns you on to watch them play with themselves as part of foreplay. My wife is reluctant to do it and I'm wondering if this is common and I should just let it go.
She may feel insecure if you just want to sit there and watch/stare. But if you are kissing and or doing other things to her while she is masturbating, she wouldn't feel as sensitive to try.

A lot of good feedback ITT.
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When we first married, NO WAY!
I'd ask, but still got a 'no way'.
One time she made the remark, 'I've never seen you do yourself'.

So I proved her wrong that evening.
She changed her mind about showing me that evening as well!


Lead by example?

She's made it clear she has no interest in that. She's no prude. She likes anal, dirty talk, public places, etc., just reserved about the masturbation thing.

She's had an eating disorder most of her life and even though she's got a great body and I tell her how beautiful and sexy she looks all the time, I think she is still self conscious of me looking at her naked. That could be part of it.
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When we first married, NO WAY!
I'd ask, but still got a 'no way'.
One time she made the remark, 'I've never seen you do yourself'.

So I proved her wrong that evening.
She changed her mind about showing me that evening as well!


Lead by example?

Totally.

Showering is great. That is our standard for years now. We shower together...not always sexual -we wash each other- talk about whatever. For me, it's one of the many things we do that make me feel so connected.

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She's made it clear she has no interest in that. She's no prude. She likes anal, dirty talk, public places, etc., just reserved about the masturbation thing.

She's had an eating disorder most of her life and even though she's got a great body and I tell her how beautiful and sexy she looks all the time, I think she is still self conscious of me looking at her naked. That could be part of it.
Hey, it could just be that either way, your wife has no interest in it, being the watcher or the watchee. We all have our preferences, and those things that we don't won't do. (Anal, is one of those thing both of us don't want anything to do with)

I can tell you, that first time I did it while she watched, and for a while after that, it wasn't so easy. Turned out it was easier for her!

Doesn't hurt to talk about it from time to time, but one should never get too pushy.
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Totally.

Showering is great. That is our standard for years now. We shower together...not always sexual -we wash each other- talk about whatever. For me, it's one of the many things we do that make me feel so connected.
I remember some times my wife & I showered together, with the plan of it being non-sexual.
Never turned out that way! Something about seeing hand washed soapy parts, always makes one of us lose control!

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I remember some times my wife & I showered together, with the plan of it being non-sexual.
Never turned out that way! Something about seeing hand washed soapy parts, always makes one of us lose control!

Yeah. Most of the time I'm standing at attention....so to speak.

She tends to help out with that as well.

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Yeah. Most of the time I'm standing at attention....so to speak.

She tends to help out with that as well.
Well....guys are easier to clean that way!

(Last heard was Ooooooooh....keeeeeep scrubbin' honey, it's not clean yet)

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Lead by example?

My wife loves it when I lead by example, I tell her I am absolutely HORRIBLE at it and then ask her to help me!

She always gets a kick out of me telling her that when she touches me it is so much better than anything I can do for myself.

In the meantime she does not masturbate and claims that if she tries that it just does not do anything for her. Part of me thinks she is just stealing/adapting my move because she does not want to do it in front of me.

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Re: Will your wife SO masturbate in front of you?

Well, if it happens, it happens; and if it doesn't, it doesn't!

To be frank, I really wouldn't really worry about it!

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No, she will not. But, she doesn't do it away from me either.

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