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A full bed would be way too small for us! We have a queen and it's perfect...and we're not big people by any means. We just both like to spread out. And sometimes a little sneaky 3 year old makes her way into our bed by 4am.
i dont know how people can not have tv...we didnt have cable for about a year...i was cranky. dont even think for a moment i want to stay up with "everybody loves raymond" ..i hate that show, i dont want to have sex with the news or paid advertsing.
i was a hurt "B" until cable was in our house again. i was tired and annoyed, and pretty pised off. dont ask me for a BJ on the weekend..oh hell no...sports or some csi...
i love having sexual relations when "how its made" is on, that show is sooo pervy, we always catch just the wrong thing and get the giggles.
Wow, we don't have cable and I'm not a B. lol. We have internet and netflix and some random channels. We're not TV people. I went 5 years without TV at all-- not even the machine in my house It was awesome. So many things got done in my house. We didn't have internet either. I loved it. But then my husband came along LOLLLL and we compromised. Both of us wanted internet, neither of us wanted to pay for cable.
The same as you can't understand how people can't have TV, I can't understand how people let TV run their moods. Seems odd to me.
Why no TV? The missus has a TV in our (her) room, and we watch movies together there, keeping each other comfortable... with me slapping her hands whenever she fondles... "but it's so nice and warm down there" bah! Anyways the walls are peachy, sponged pattern, yellow lights, dim lamps, fake plants - as I'm allergic to pollen, with mirrors on our cupboard and ceiling. It's a bit of a web really, hard to pull away from, especially with wifey brushing her sexy thigh on the bed inviting me in.
Only thing that really turns me off however is the smell of her makeup. Still, you get used to it, it just becomes another room, like my man-cave - with my nice relaxing sofa bed which isn't as soft as our (her) bed so it doesn't give me back aches!
We replace our beds every other month really too, the springs go weak and she doesn't want the wooden supports I suggested... darn woman. Wasting our money really...
oh...sleep, i gave up on that little thing since i had "3". and watching network at 3 in thee morning just makes you realize you should be asleep, but cant, because these info-mercials are so annoying..why do they have to scream at you, it dosent make you want to buy it more...
we never sleep, i think we are up until 3/4..then the kids get up at 6. we have netflix, my streaming never worked right, we do red box, i have hbo, showtime, stars, encore, and any tv show on demand, all kinds of video games.
basically its the best room in the house. just come in and throw your self down...yes we have sexual acts, its not vanilla, about 5/6 times a week. our room is like a studio apt. everything you could want or need.
its our haven, our escape from other people. if it wasnt in our room, it would be a den, a family room, living room, some other room we would be in different rooms doing different things, not seeing each other.
each one of us making a different area our own, with all the comforts one could want...why leave such a space..we just took the best of both of us and made the ultimate space for him, me, and us.
We have a thirty year old home, which I've completely remodeled over the past five years. My wife worked with an interior designer who specialized in wall finishings for about a year while she didn't work in her normal career. She learned so much. We recently put in a textured finish on the walls, with a sandalwood color theme, yet the recesses were tinted darker. Below the chair rail, she went with a slightly darker coloring. The effect makes the room look antique, yet romantic. Before finishing the wall, I ran a new circuit for wall mounted lights beside the bed that look more like candles. In a step down arrangement beside the bed, we also have small shelves for candles. We have a sofa with thick cushions, and ntique looking french doors leading to the private deck, which is on the second floor. A switch to the doors, which contain smart glass, transitions the panes to a frosty white, but I have vertical blinds that can cover the whole door at night. I always open the blinds and let in the sun in the morning when we don't work. My wife made the sandalwood/white door contrast work through using white crown moulding and chair rail.
To us, old fashioned high ceilings with an elegant fan are romantic. It took weeks, but I raised the center of the ceiling into the attic, a trey ceiling, and we leave the fan running slowly. My wife is picky enough that we repainted the iron decorative rails on the bed, which connect the heavy pillars on the corners, and every piece of metal on the furniture to exactly the same hammered finish. It is our retreat. Even wired a receptacle for a wine cabinet and small refrigerator in her closet, but recessed into the garage attic behind. She likes to keep bottled water if we are 'occupied' for a few hours.
A full bed would be way too small for us! We have a queen and it's perfect...and we're not big people by any means. We just both like to spread out. And sometimes a little sneaky 3 year old makes her way into our bed by 4am.
We had a full bed before and it was way too tight; my husband is 6'3.
Our new queen size is much better and more comfortable. It is parallel to the dresser, so we can watch ourselves sometimes that way too.
We have a European double bed which is bigger than a full but smaller than a queen. I think it's just right for us - we had kings in the past and hated how isolating they were. We also don't believe in "sides" of the bed - I don't have "my side" and he doesn't have his, where we sleep is random and we make an effort not to sleep on the same side even by accident for more than 2-3 nights in a row.
We have a European double bed which is bigger than a full but smaller than a queen. I think it's just right for us - we had kings in the past and hated how isolating they were. We also don't believe in "sides" of the bed - I don't have "my side" and he doesn't have his, where we sleep is random and we make an effort not to sleep on the same side even by accident for more than 2-3 nights in a row.
Halien, your bedroom sounds AMAZING!!!!
We have sides. Hubs sleeps on the side near the door. He said it's for protection lol.
A couple of years ago, I redecorated our bedroom- complete with new furniture. I covered the ceiling with a paintable wallpaper that looks like pressed tin. It's white. I painted the walls celadon green and the trim white. I hung creamy white sheers with silk celadon panels over the windows. Our bedding is silk celadon with embroidered flowers/paisley in blues, yellows, and orange. Our furniture is dark mahogany. We have a tall arched headboard, matching nightstands and a highboy dresser. The furniture has brushed nickel knobs, so we matched our lamps and fan to them. We have dark wood floors. There is a free standing mirror in one corner that we like to move near the bed on occasion. I've been on the lookout for more art, but right now there is only one large painting. It is of a house overlooking the ocean. It reminds me of a northern coastal town.
I love to paint and am constantly changing the color of the rooms in our house. However, we both still love this color so I haven't felt like changing it yet. It's a very calm and peaceful room. I love when the sun shines through the sheers. My husband isn't one to pay that much attention to decor, but he's mentioned how much he loves that roo
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We are guilty of having a small flat screen tv. On wintry Sundays, we have been known to spend most of the day in bed- watching movies and playing around together. We have designated sides, but I have a habit of taking my half out of the middle, so my husband is always very close to edge while I have lots of room to stretch my legs out. I don't do it on purpose, but we always wake up like that. Posted via Mobile Device
I still don't get what's wrong with having a TV, or mirrors. =/
As for bedside... hehe, the missus complains about how I manage to steal the blanket subconsciously in my sleep, and manage to wrap it around myself even (besides she insists we wear nothing to bed - it gets cold with the aircon) Or sleeping in the middle so the bed becomes a "V" (she blames it on that but I blame it on the rumbling), or managing to push her off to the floor especially when I do sleep in the middle lol. Still, I complain about the heat really, she has an annoying habit to wrap herself around me, which leads me to a lot of sweat, waking me up in the middle of the night - probably how she winds up on the floor half the time.
Lots of people don't have a tv in their bedroom because they want that room to be designated for sex and sleep. My husband and I don't have children and can have sex anytime, anywhere in the house or the yard. That may be why I don't mind having one in our bedroom. If we had little ones running around, I would probably be against having one in there.
The mirror thing is feng shui. One poster talked about how having one that reflects the marriage bed could invite bad spirits or energy into the marriage. ( other people?) Ideally, a mirror should face the door. It may ward off negative spirits or energy. They will see their reflection and it might confuse them. That's according to the feng shui book I own. I'm not strict about following it, but I use bits and pieces that are important to us.
My husband and I were reconnecting and reviving a sexless marriage when I did our bedroom. Painting it felt very therapeutic to me. We were both really excited the day our new furniture arrived. My husband looked around, smiled and commented that we now had adult furniture. I was coming out of a shabby chic phase with white furniture and tons of pink- all of it gone, now. Anyway, that bedroom with the adult furniture sees a lot more adult activity these days. Posted via Mobile Device
I'm not into feng shui at all so I don't know anything about that; I like the mirror because it's pretty and it looks nice, reflects light, and reflects the nice painting over the bed so we can actually see it when we're in bed (you usually can't see what's over the bed from the bed). As for the TV, I don't think anyone said it's "wrong" to have one in the bedroom, just not right for them. I don't want a TV because I just want the bedroom to be for sex, sleep, and the in-between parts of that - which definitely don't include TV. We're not into porn but if we were, maybe that would change our minds about TV!
I understand it's individual choice not to have a tv in the bedroom...
But for me, I needs my tv... Where else am I gonna play my violent video games in the daytime where the kids won't see it?...
Also, its my opinion that, lack of sex is just an excuse for people to do what they had no other intention of doing... But then again, maybe it's me, but when it's time to get it on, tv is not getting in my way... It's all about priority...
Tv in our bedroom--oh a MUST so we can lay in each others arms & watch romantic movies, and a little soft porn now & then. And our bedroom is hooked to our own private bathroom so we can lock the kids out -thankfully, or we'd have to renovate !
Recently we added a large mirror in front of our bed, anyone who wonders in there & has a dirty mind will know why we did that.
Nothing else really matter, does it !
We have a few peices of sex furniture -(The Liberator Wedge & Ramp) Liberator - Official Site of Liberator Shapes & Sex Furniture on the other side of our bed out of view. Funny cause the kids get in there & take them all over the house- lay on them to watch tv downstairs, build houses with them... they have no idea what they were orginally bought for -so who cares but we have to make sure they can't be seem- when company comes -just in case.
SA, that is hilarious about the Liberator!! But of course your friends would have to pretend not to know what it was, because that would out them as well LOL!!
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It was awesome. So many things got done in my house. We didn't have internet either. 
(besides she insists we wear nothing to bed - it gets cold with the aircon) Or sleeping in the middle so the bed becomes a "V" (she blames it on that but I blame it on the rumbling), or managing to push her off to the floor especially when I do sleep in the middle lol. Still, I complain about the heat really, she has an annoying habit to wrap herself around me, which leads me to a lot of sweat, waking me up in the middle of the night - probably how she winds up on the floor half the time.
