Re: Hot wife and no sex
I know how she feels Brad. Once you partner hurts you to a certain point you lose all sexual interest in them. It happened with my husband and I also. I don't think that I could personally hold out that long though.lol. I was still attracted to him, but the act became too stressful for me because I never felt good enough. He had a problem with porn for about a year. He still does as far as I know and it killed my love and sexual appetite for him.
I honestly don't know how to help you guys. I recently moved out because of the issue. I just can't love him or want him like I used to and it's not fair to any of us for us to stay together.
I never intertwined love and sex before I met him and I think that is part of my problem. I can not fathom why he would chose porn over a beautiful woman that he supposedly loves who also happens to be a freak in the bedroom? I am WAY better looking than him and have a higher sex drive so I should have been the one needing porn to be satisfied, but I wouldn't even masturbate when he turned me down because I wanted him and only him.
I, too, had a great dating life before I met him and I had a lot of self confidence. I was dating five different fellas who all adored me(I am a good girl) and were great catches. And, I fall in love with someone who can't love me like I want to be loved.
I think, for me, the main problem is that he would not stop the behavior. He would stop long enough for me to start trusting him again and we'd resume having awesome sex and then he'd do it again!
She probably assumes that you still use porn especially since she is not giving you sex. I figure that now that I moved out he's having a great time home alone with his porn. I hope it keeps him warm at night because I sure as hell won't be. Personally, I prefer the real thing. I was faithful and passed up so many opportunities to cheat because I wanted only him and this is what I get for being a good woman. I'll never pass it up again.
Sorry, I know that didn't help, but I needed to vent and also to let you know a bit about it from the woman's side.
I was very forgiving and if he had done what you've done for the past year then there would have no longer been a problem in my relationship. Have you guys gone to counseling? Maybe a sex therapist would help? Is she willing to do that?
I tried to get the hubby to go and he didn't want to, but now that I moved out he suddenly wants to go to counseling. Too little, too late as far I'm concerned.