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Re: There any men in here who DON'T like giving oral?
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Originally Posted by Dax
I wouldn't want to go down on a girl that doesn't shave. A mouthful of hair isn't a turn on. Also, it should be clean and washed before I go down there because there is bacteria in the vagina and if it's dirty, it's not healthy and it smells. Also, it can get tiresome to leave your mouth open a long time while you're waiting for her to get there and it irritates the jaw. Not to mention, your tongue can start to get tired trying to move it fast. So all in all, no I don't really like it.
Oh cry me a river. As a woman, I've given long ass BJs so my husband could finish. I don't expect him to shave and he's clean anyway. lol.
Re: There any men in here who DON'T like giving oral?
I would give my wife oral everyday if she would let me, I LOVE to give, but she only wants it occassionally, like a few times a year. I love to care of her first, takes pressure off me and I can concentrate on just her and her pleasure. She is just not that in to recieving though.
Re: There any men in here who DON'T like giving oral?
I used to just take it or leave it...Then I came across the most phenomenal oral sex ever. I love it now...EXCEPT...the POSE wasn't with my H, it was several years ago. And my H admittedly has 'hang ups' about it...So we do other things...
Re: There any men in here who DON'T like giving oral?
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Originally Posted by CandieGirl
I used to just take it or leave it...Then I came across the most phenomenal oral sex ever. I love it now...EXCEPT...the POSE wasn't with my H, it was several years ago. And my H admittedly has 'hang ups' about it...So we do other things...
That sux!
my wife will give reluctently but If they anit into it then its hard to enjoy.the whole time your thinking just as i start going they stop or do something that ruins it.
and if you give instructions they seem offended.
dose he ask for oral? and do you give?
Kinda make me resentfull a little that she dosen't reciprocate.
Re: There any men in here who DON'T like giving oral?
Every guy I have been with has loved to do it. Which is great in theory, but I personally hate people giving me oral, so its bad for me. Nothing worse than having your partner whine at you to let him put his head between your legs all the time. I can understand where your husband is coming from though. I sort of put myself in their shoes - if I had to give oral to a woman, I would find it completely vile and could not force myself to go near it with a ten foot pole. But then again I am a straight woman so I guess I wouldn't be able to relate to that one really, haha. The whole concept reminds me of a basset hound drinking water out of a bowl. Slop slop slop slop and then afterwards everything is covered in goo.
Re: There any men in here who DON'T like giving oral?
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Originally Posted by Dax
Yes that's it. This one girl I dated before couldn't really orgasm either no matter how long I was down there or how hard I tried. Other girls easily could. It definitely was an ego destroyer. Why spend all that effort to please her when it didn't get the job done? I didn't even try anymore, and ended up breaking up with her but for other reasons. However, sexual incompatibility was one of them.
My advice would be to fake it if you like it that much so he feels better.
I'm not gonna fake it to make him feel better. If he has ego issues that's something he needs to work out on his own. I can't help him with that.
Re: There any men in here who DON'T like giving oral?
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Originally Posted by randomtxguy
To the OP: Love giving, wife won't take it.
Do you have an open dialogue with your H on the subject? If it's something that's important to you, you should be able to talk about it. The W and I just had a similar conversation: she has altered her oral performance and I wanted to know why/how to go back to the good old days. Also, don't fake it: he may be able to tell, and if you're not honest with him about his performance, it will be a bigger shock if you tell him after 5 years of doing in the wrong way. Just emphasize that even if you don't get off, you love the experience, and reciprocate the gesture. Good luck!
We do need to talk about it. We have communication issues and he gets mad if he feels attacked so I have to plan this carefully and watch how I say it.
Re: There any men in here who DON'T like giving oral?
Recieving? Personally for the missus and I, oral is not about either giving or recieving, it's both at the same time, for example, she gives me something nice to enjoy and play with, and she enjoys what I do with it, and vice versa.
Re: There any men in here who DON'T like giving oral?
As a wife I will tell you giving oral is required and doing it well is expected. I'm willing to do pretty much anything for him and he has the same attitude. It's the best way to kck things off and get me in the mood. Sometimes it's all I want and sometimes I want for a long period of time. I think if more husbands would perfect their skills and learn to really focus on pleasing their wives it would address a lot of the "my wife isn't interested in sex" issues. There is a reason "Lady's first" is the number one rule of chivalry. So, to the original poster I suggest you be very direct and clear about your desires and expectations. Selfishness in the bedroom is the quickest way to a bad sex life. "she cums first" is our rule and he has learned the quickest wat to get pretty much anything he wants is to get me to the point where my eyes are rolling back in my head. It doesn't end there...it starts there. Posted via Mobile Device
Re: There any men in here who DON'T like giving oral?
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Originally Posted by chillymorn
That sux!
my wife will give reluctently but If they anit into it then its hard to enjoy.the whole time your thinking just as i start going they stop or do something that ruins it.
and if you give instructions they seem offended.
dose he ask for oral? and do you give?
Kinda make me resentfull a little that she dosen't reciprocate.
He doesn't ask...I am generous... We're working on reciprocation...
Re: There any men in here who DON'T like giving oral?
I love it! I just wished my wife let me do it more often. She is extremely responsive when I do and it is the only way I can directly give her an orgasm (she never comes from intercourse or my digital manipulation). The only downside is that she won't have sex with me after having an orgasm (she claims that she is too tight after having one) and she won't kiss me after I've gone down on her.
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Re: There any men in here who DON'T like giving oral? 
We're working on reciprocation...
