And it's crap, that alpha/beta stuff. Yet men soak it up. How Anon 1111arrived at his conclusions about women being more comfortable being dominated by some casual hook up is pure nonsense. But it touched on the casual sex theme that is a trigger for you. And I didn't want you to tuck this nonsense away as yet another reason why women don't treat men as they should.
but some women DO feel that way.. there are cases like this.. either their husband is not enough "this or that".. or they do not feel comfortable sharing their fantasies/ asking for what they REALLY want...
Maybe that is the real question.. why can't they open up about it..
I've never been afraid to go there.. or reach for what I wanted....even try to dictate it !@# ...he doesn't get mad... but yet ...he's still just NOT that sorta guy... I even bought this book yrs back... Just F**k Me! - What Women Want Men to Know About Taking Control in the Bedroom
We'd read it together.. It's been a little frustrating... but it's surely not a deal breaker for me.. we work with what we have.. I get the whip out. that's all..
At least we're able to laugh about it..
You seem to think your husband is beta and because of the alpha/beta nonsense here at TAM you feel the need to defend your beta husband. But I suggest to you that according to the same principals of the alpha/beta crap, the fact that you have never lost attraction to your husband must mean that the man is much more alpha than perhap you give him credit. Because according to the alpha/beta crap, if your husband was as beta as you seem to think, you would have lost attraction and respect for him, because after all women have this lizard brain thing that subconsciously dictates their sexual response and arousal.
Betas are natural pleasers...actually if you want an orgasm, Betas are better at foreplay, they linger where SHE wants...some would say they make better lovers... Yes.. I don't like to see Beta's put down... this is true.. they have their pluses..but are rarely given any credit for.
I have never attempted to put a stop to you posting your opinions and if anyone were to pester you in an attempt to intimidate or bully you into stop posting your thoughts and opinions, as they frequently do with JLD, I would be among the first to defend your right to post.
Nice to hear that you'll have my back Anon P
I simply didn't want you to use an opinion that was based on conjecture and bull sh!t as yet another example of women not treating men as they should.
I do think most women crave some dominance from the man though.. my husband is the breadwinner.. he carries the family.. this is his dominance.. it's really not in the bedroom.... just speaking it as it is.. I could tell some pretty funny stories trying to hog tie him into being more dominate...I believe it would take his being jacked up on testosterone to change him ..