Hi everyone,
Its time for an update about Mrs.Cuddlebug and I.
Her life long goal of having straight white teeth is now within a few months being completed. Her braces are coming off soon, teeth being whitened and I am really happy for her. I had to push her but she finally did this a few years ago and now in a few months its all done.
Now she has stopped going to the gym long ago, doesn't watch what she eats as much, calories per meal, etc. As a result she is getting really fat and is heavier than I am. I am 6 ft 2 at 225 lbs. She is 5 ft 10 at 230+ lbs. She has those big fat arms and legs now. For Mrs.CuddleBug to get in shape now, she'd have to lose a lot of weight. I still love her but I find her physically gross.
My sex drive is the same, love more adventurous, spontaneous sex, etc. She only wants sex 1x month and that's it. If I initiate, she turns me down 99% of the time, so I don't initiate much if at all anymore.
Mrs.CuddleBug has the money, her own car and freedom, yet she doesn't take care of her body, for her health and marriage and sex is....we'll, meh, does it 1x month to keep the marriage going?
I still eat healthy, know my calories and do more maintenance weight training. I am still big and strong, just more lean and not big and bulky.
I've learned from TAM that LD spouses usually never change. They might at first but then fall back into their old ways. Nothing you can do really.
On a positive note, we've been married 17 years as of Sept 11.
I know, 9 - 11.....heh.
Would I of married Mrs.CuddleBug knowing she would let herself go and isn't interested in sex? NO. Why waste your life with someone like that?
I would of been a great friend to her though.
So overall, life is like a box of chocolates. You don't know what you'll get.
Great woman, just not a physical type woman. Can't win 'em all.
Its time for an update about Mrs.Cuddlebug and I.
Her life long goal of having straight white teeth is now within a few months being completed. Her braces are coming off soon, teeth being whitened and I am really happy for her. I had to push her but she finally did this a few years ago and now in a few months its all done.
Now she has stopped going to the gym long ago, doesn't watch what she eats as much, calories per meal, etc. As a result she is getting really fat and is heavier than I am. I am 6 ft 2 at 225 lbs. She is 5 ft 10 at 230+ lbs. She has those big fat arms and legs now. For Mrs.CuddleBug to get in shape now, she'd have to lose a lot of weight. I still love her but I find her physically gross.
My sex drive is the same, love more adventurous, spontaneous sex, etc. She only wants sex 1x month and that's it. If I initiate, she turns me down 99% of the time, so I don't initiate much if at all anymore.
Mrs.CuddleBug has the money, her own car and freedom, yet she doesn't take care of her body, for her health and marriage and sex is....we'll, meh, does it 1x month to keep the marriage going?
I still eat healthy, know my calories and do more maintenance weight training. I am still big and strong, just more lean and not big and bulky.
I've learned from TAM that LD spouses usually never change. They might at first but then fall back into their old ways. Nothing you can do really.
On a positive note, we've been married 17 years as of Sept 11.
I know, 9 - 11.....heh.
Would I of married Mrs.CuddleBug knowing she would let herself go and isn't interested in sex? NO. Why waste your life with someone like that?
I would of been a great friend to her though.
So overall, life is like a box of chocolates. You don't know what you'll get.
Great woman, just not a physical type woman. Can't win 'em all.