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post #1 of 79 (permalink) Old 11-05-2011, 05:40 PM Thread Starter
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My husband and my feet...

My husband and I have been married for six weeks, and we were in a relationship for about ten months before that. His job forces him to be away quite a bit, so although our sex life has always been great, we've had to make the most of the time we have together because he is frequently travelling. I guess in that sense, there is still a period of discovering each other's desires to an extent. Having said that, today I came home from the gym and within minutes, he and I were making love, and it was pretty spontaneous, so we were ripping each others' clothes off and everything. As we were having sex, I eventually was totally naked except for my socks and sneakers. I didnít think much of it, other than it looked kinda funny. I could see him staring at them a lot, but again, wasnít really thinking about that during sex. After a little bit though, I could feel him getting harder than Iíve ever felt or seen him and he was going very fast and hard especially when I could that he was staring at my sneakers. Then he got even more extremely worked up and grabbed my calves and ripped off my socks and sneakers and put my feet side by side and pushed his face like buried in the bottoms of my feet and I could feel him sniffing really hard. He only did it for maybe 10 seconds but then he cummed REALLY REALLY hard. It happened so fast that I didnít have time to ask him what he was doing or tell him my feet were sweaty and I was embarrassed but I was NOT expecting that. Afterwards, he seemed very embarrassed and wouldn't even talk about it before he had to leave until tonight. I plan on talking about it more when he gets home, but I'm wondering...Is that normal? Should I be concerned about him being a pervert or something? My feet were like really sweaty and I am sure they were smelly, so why did he do that? Iíve heard of rare guys thinking feet or toes were cute, but he smelled the bottoms. Iím confused. Any other women have similar experiences or any insight or advice to help me?
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Re: My husband and my feet...

Looks like he has a foot fetish

Not a big deal for me...could be fun for you

I wouldn't talk seriously about it...more in a flirty way. He's probably embarrassed because people would think he's weird.

I wouldn't say he's a pervert for this.


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Re: My husband and my feet...

Thank you for your quick reply I guess I'm just most confused by the fact that even though I've heard of foot fetishes, I've never experienced a guy with one, or know anyone who has. I always thought they were more about toes and shoes, not the bottoms and smelling them? I mean, is this something you've experienced or heard of? Maybe it's more common than I anticipated
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Totally. Have fun with this. No shame here. He's your husband! I wouldn't say this is a problem, but that's just me. Get creative


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And our bodies' smells are total turn ons. What we think is funky, actually could turn our men on.


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Not a big deal, Lexi. Very common for some men to have a "thing" for feet. I bet if you asked him to masturbate onto your feet sometime, he would lose his freakin' MIND.

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Thank you I've always been labelled the wild girl by my friends and family, but sounds like I have a lot to learn about this one! Never even thought about the bottoms of my feet being a turn on, or the smell, or socks and sneakers even...let alone masturbating onto my feet hehe. Maybe I will suggest that the next time we are having sex. Also sounds like a number of you have had similar experiences, which makes me feel not as alone in this as I did initially
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Plus...I don't really think "feet" are a "fetish" at all. I mean, they ARE a part of YOUR body and everything! It just so happens that he's particularly interested in your feet...as well your legs, boobs and all the other stuff.
So true! My husband isn't sexually into my feet, but he loves to give them massages!


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My feet were like really sweaty and I am sure they were smelly, so why did he do that?
The feet contain apocrine sweat glands just like the genitals and produce much the same pheromones.


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Iíve heard of rare guys thinking feet or toes were cute, but he smelled the bottoms. Iím confused. Any other women have similar experiences or any insight or advice to help me?
It is not rare. It is very, very common.

Prior to the internet, it was estimated that only about 1% of the male population held this interest. Today, we know that this estimate was much too low. And this is based on the sheer number of IP addresses that regularly include "feet" in sex related searches.

Erotic interest in women's feet is as old as the human race itself, but it became fixed in our Western culture during the Renaissance. Nobody is really sure why, but psychologists suspect that it was a sociobiological response to the epidemics of venereal disease that swept through Europe at the time. (i.e. A form of safe sex.)

Romantic literature of the time began making detailed, loving references to this body part (e.g. The Romance of the Rose) and painters started paying far more attention to feet. (e.g. Mantegna, Botticelli, etc.)

European retellings of earlier fairy tales incorporated a fairly obvious sexual interest in feet. In the Cinderella story, the young woman wears glass slippers (Which presumably would have been see-through) and her feet apparently make a bigger impression on the Prince than her face. In some versions of The Goose Girl, which is a similar story, her feet, "were so pretty that she didn't need shoes."

In brothels, fully clothed prostitutes solicited customers with their feet bared and advances in shoe-making technology made a true women's high heel with an abbreviated ventral aspect and slender heel possible. Today, shoes are one of the most strongly genderized of all items of clothing and you can almost always tell the sex of a person based on their shoes alone

There's still a certain social stigma attached to this interest and men who find feet sexy are often portrayed as weak, dweeby little perverts who can't or won't respect a woman's social boundaries. (Like the shoe salesmen in Sex and the City.) So this makes it harder for men to be open and upfront about it.

Men who have admitted it include Tommy Lee, Jack Black, Alex Rodriquez, and Big Boi. Rex Ryan hasn't actually admitted it, but there's no point in him denying it either. It's also fairly obvious that both Jay Leno and David Letterman share this interest. It's an open secret that Alfred Hitch**** (The censor won't let me spell his name.) liked feet and everybody already knew about Quentin Tarantino.

Meg is correct. Technically this is not a fetish. (According to both the ICD-10 and the DSM-IV-TR) A 'fetish' is a psychological disorder involving sexual fixation upon an inanimate object, like a stocking or undergarment.

A sexual fixation upon a non-sexual part of the body, like feet can be considered a related paraphilia called a 'partialism' if interest in this body part supplants a normal, healthy interest in the sexual parts of the body. For the vast majority of men who find feet sexy, I don't believe this is the case.
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Wow, so much new insight there. Thank you!
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My man and I have a mutual disgust for feet. I don't understand foot fetishes at all.
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My husband has cute feet. Normally I hate feet.

My daughter DESPISES feet. I can't even put my feet near her without her throwing a fit. lollll


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The only feet allowed to be bare in our house are our 2yr old's.
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Oh wow. I'm a hippie. Well, not really, but I hate shoes. And socks. Only wear them for work LOL...flip flops all year round.


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But its too cold to go sockless now.


To the OP: I wouldnt say its normal, but its far from perverted. Look at it this way, you should be able to get unlimited foot massages out of him.

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Hey, as long as you're having fun and he's having fun (which it sounds like he definitely did), it's all good. Enjoy!
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