I'm just venting, but if any of you wish to give me any advise; please feel free.
We dated for 5 years before he proposed to me and it was because I told him while dating that I wanted to be married before turning 30 if possible. Now we are married for less than 7 months and I'm regretting it.
After readying several post here, I realize that I'm depressed because of several factors and that is not getting me in the mood to have sex just like that. It became to a point that even in our honeymoon we only had sex 2 times, after we came back, reality started to sink in. We often argue about every tinny thing (more often is me getting angry at him), and more often he preferred to just go out and come back really late at night.
Several times he told me that he was horny wanted to have sex, and from those time I will try to please him; but I never initiated sex. He told me many times that not having sex was not helping the health of our marriage and I told him that I was stressed due to work and financially; we both don't have much money, but I have more than him due to my early savings; aside that my salary is higher than his. He understood and told me he was trying to provide and will do better to earn a better income even if he needs to work some part time. Few months later, didn't see any progress on that promise.
He kept asking me to have sex with him after that; I was not in the mood so I told him the excuse that all people use >I'm tired< next day he comes back home late and tell me; If we don't have sex, don't blame me if I start looking for it outside. To have my husband tell me that, my hearth plummeted to the center of the earth and it seems might not come back up to be revive; he ask me for sex every other month and I sometimes don't deny him, but I get off by using a dildo in front of him; I don't let him in. I know I'm doing this as a punishment, but it seems that he doesn't realize what he told me and still complaints about why we are not having sex like ragging rabbits because we are newlyweds, a) because I don't feel secure financially and emotionally, b) we moved back to his parents house and we are leaving in a house where walls are practically non-existent (BTW we are sleeping both in a single bed, because having even a double bed will not fit in the room).
So you tell me, is he even in the right to be angry at me because I don't feel like having sex? that my priority is to have us be financially more stable because -selfish me- I want to buy a house so we can start our real marriage relationship?
We dated for 5 years before he proposed to me and it was because I told him while dating that I wanted to be married before turning 30 if possible. Now we are married for less than 7 months and I'm regretting it.
After readying several post here, I realize that I'm depressed because of several factors and that is not getting me in the mood to have sex just like that. It became to a point that even in our honeymoon we only had sex 2 times, after we came back, reality started to sink in. We often argue about every tinny thing (more often is me getting angry at him), and more often he preferred to just go out and come back really late at night.
Several times he told me that he was horny wanted to have sex, and from those time I will try to please him; but I never initiated sex. He told me many times that not having sex was not helping the health of our marriage and I told him that I was stressed due to work and financially; we both don't have much money, but I have more than him due to my early savings; aside that my salary is higher than his. He understood and told me he was trying to provide and will do better to earn a better income even if he needs to work some part time. Few months later, didn't see any progress on that promise.
He kept asking me to have sex with him after that; I was not in the mood so I told him the excuse that all people use >I'm tired< next day he comes back home late and tell me; If we don't have sex, don't blame me if I start looking for it outside. To have my husband tell me that, my hearth plummeted to the center of the earth and it seems might not come back up to be revive; he ask me for sex every other month and I sometimes don't deny him, but I get off by using a dildo in front of him; I don't let him in. I know I'm doing this as a punishment, but it seems that he doesn't realize what he told me and still complaints about why we are not having sex like ragging rabbits because we are newlyweds, a) because I don't feel secure financially and emotionally, b) we moved back to his parents house and we are leaving in a house where walls are practically non-existent (BTW we are sleeping both in a single bed, because having even a double bed will not fit in the room).
So you tell me, is he even in the right to be angry at me because I don't feel like having sex? that my priority is to have us be financially more stable because -selfish me- I want to buy a house so we can start our real marriage relationship?