I have always been LD when speaking in comparison to my husband's HD. But things have become much worse lately in that he is fed up and ready to leave. He is a good man, a great provider (we run our own business) and even does laundry and house cleaning now that I work full time running the business from our house. When we had a separate office I worked with 2 helpers now it is just me and that is okay because he gets home before I finish work and he really pitches in with household chores. As I said I have always been LD compared to him but even though I enjoy sex when we have it, no problems with lubrication or orgasm but I do not desire it enough to initiate. For some reason I have a block about initiation.I feel less feminine. Through the last 5 years or so I do not initiate and he gets angry about this. He feels his housework should free me up enough to make his sexual needs a higher priority in my life. Part of my issue is as I've come to realize is his desires have turned into something completely different from when we first were married/dating. He has told be he feels he is bi-sexual but does not feel the need to act on that part of his life although he looks at gay erotica, wants me to use a strap on on him, would like anal foreplay (his), role play and has dressed up in women's clothing. He thinks that our sex life is too vanilla and we need to spice it up but if I try to tell him I'm uncomfortable with this he says that as long as it is just us two in this marriage and we are consenting loving adults what we do shouldn't matter. That I should want to do these things to make him feel loved an accepted. I'm ok with his erotica and fantasies I just cannot get turned on by them and I try to put them out of my head but I think they are blocking me from being the sexual partner he needs in regards to frequency and intimacy. What should I do? I feel if I tell him these things are off the table I will be rejecting him for who he is. So I've unconsciously blocked our sex life so as not to deal with this but it's making it worse. I want to connect and be more loving and work on our sex life but I feel he is the more feminine of us (even though he is bearded and tattooed) he is thinner, in better shape (I'm taking care of myself and always make an effort to look good) better at house keeping and laundry and cooking than me. I feel he is almost perfect and I fall short. Why can't I just overlook his "kinks" and just see the man I love? He does not want to act with another man and wants to preserve our marriage but would like me to help him by incorporating his fantasies into our sexual reperatoire.