you raise a topic that is most likely a personal preference and perhaps not done as much as vaginal sex.
I prefer vaginal sex b/c it is more intimate, and if the women knows how to use her vaginal muscles she can really make the man beg for mercy so to speak. That's why keagles are so important. Plus most women can cum easier via vaginal sex.
you raise a topic that is most likely a personal preference and perhaps not done as much as vaginal sex.
I prefer vaginal sex b/c it is more intimate, and if the women knows how to use her vaginal muscles she can really make the man beg for mercy so to speak. That's why keagles are so important. Plus most women can cum easier via vaginal sex.
I have a few thoughts about anal sex. I think its mainly a male obsession, physiologically women don't have a prostate which is what makes it pleasurable for men to recieve anal sex. I've also noted that every time I've talked to men about anal sex online they always insist that they only do it at the request of women.
I think the desire is largely down to porn entering the mainstream in the last couple of decades, porn needs to push the envelope to compensate for a relativly narrow list of things it can depict hence why anal sex got more and more prominance (and why female performers were put under more pressure to do it)
One more thing the apparently approved method of anal sex, where the woman stretches her sphincter using her fingers or an object so as when it actually comes to the man penetrating her it doesn't hurt. Well that basically leaves the sphincter in a stretched state over a prolonged period which has all sorts of health implications later in life (nappies anyone?)
No, it doesn't leave the sphincter stretched for an extended period.
The muscle returns to it's normal function within minutes.
You may be mistaking the money shot of anal porn where the sphincter is left gaping.
I don't have any problems with "control" and my GF and I like it. I'm not saying there isn't a little leakage, but I have an enema beforehand and we use (or keephandy) a towel and washcloth.
And we're both adults and know how the body works. No surprises.
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The long term effects of anal sex are debatable, Its not just another form of sex. Its using a body orifice for something it wasn't designed for.
To have anal sex without any discomfort you need to practice distending your sphincter muscles so a penis can push through it.
The sphincter will tense up again but the muscle won't be the same. There are health effects of having continuous anal sex over a long time period. Hence the nappies.
haha! "a matter of taste" ewwww gross! ;-) funny draconis... okay in all seriousness, I admit I tried it Once with my hubby, and that will be the last time.... it's just way too uncomfortable, and he says he won't miss it, that he'd rather make love the old fashioned way. I am not judging anyone who gets in to that, as long as it's with a consenting adult, but , Sarah probably has a good point, over time, anal sex can damage the sphincter muscles, especially if it's frequent, I have heard this, so she's not off the mark there. Anytime you need an enema to have sex, it might be a clue that it's not the right thing. But that is Just me , so anyone please don't be offended. Go anal if you really wanna, it's only your business, no one else's.......
Marina, Sarah -- I'm on a few other forums besides this one. One I was on was extremely descriptive of ordinary sexual matters (they upgraded and lost all their subscribers...sigh).
One of my current forums discusses anal (along with much more sexual content than here). PM me if you'd like more info. It's not porn, but a discussion of sex.
There is at least one doctor and 3 or 4 nurses as regular, strong contributors. Not a one of them has said there are long term deleterious effects from anal sex. But they also realize that other posters are not talking about doing it every day; just once in a while, but regularly.
The sphincter is a muscle. Just like your bicep. It can be trained, strengthened, allowed to atrophy, etc. Just like the rest of your body, getting in shape and keeping it there is a life long effort.
And while I'm not a doctor, I can speak from personal experience of over 25 years of using my own anus, there have been no problems. In fact, I can take a dildo that's too large for my GF to take vaginally.
And there's nothing wrong with an enema just for the sake of an enema, either! About once a month is normal for me unless we're planning a pegging. Just don't use the store-bought fleet type...they use chemicals; pour it out and refill it with tap water.
Bottom line -- if you don't want to do it, then don't. If it hurts, then the penetrator didn't know how to prepare you for it (and that's exactly what I told my daughter, too! She laughed and agreed).
But don't rely on information from someone who hasn't done it. Or who did it once and "it hurt". Research it on your own (heck, ask your doctor about it -- he's heard it all anyway; or google it - you can find anything there ).
I'm not pushing anal sex, but so many people have misguided preconceptions about it that they don't/won't even try to see if it can be an enhancement to their repertoire.
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I think one issue with anal sex is how since its entered the mainstream there's a tendancy by people that practice it regularly to promote it as a normal sex act. Part of this promotion of anal sex is I think to do with how it was once seen as a normal part of gay sex, so any criticism of anal sex was seen as somehow being anti gay. These days however many gay men don't practice anal sex, I have a gay friend who's never been penetrated anally. So if gay men are turning their back on it for a variety of reasons it seems a strange time for it to be promoted in the hetrosexual community.
I'm not sure how explicit I can be on here but I'll try and phrase my response carefully. When you push something past your sphincter you're not developing the muscle, you're forcing it to loosen. Sure it'll contract back to its normal shape after a little while but if you get to the stage where you can have anal sex with little or no preparation then you're sphincter has undergone a significant physical change, which might become an issue in later life.
Also regular enemas aren't something that's reccomended by medical professional anymore, due to it disturbing bacteria in your colon.
Just to offer my own experience I did try anal sex on a few occassions, it didn't do anything for me sexually. It's eveybodies individual choice but I think women need to be sceptical about a lot of what is basically promotion dressed up as i'nformation' that's on the internet.
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A Question for the Men about sex
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