Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?
 Talk About Marriage
  The Marriage Advice and Relationship Help Forums
  right
Forums - For Therapists - Link to Us - Advertise  

    A Public Forum Provided by The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory
Register FAQ Community Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read

Navigation »Talk About Marriage »Focused Topics »Sex in Marriage » Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

Sex in Marriage Sexual problems are common in many relationships. This section is for discussions about sexuality. Please limit discussions to those asking for help with a problem and those offering advice. Any other threads may be deleted.

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old 11-17-2011, 07:55 AM   #1 (permalink)
Member
 
2sick's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Posts: 389
Smile Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

Although I've been happily married for 17 years,with two kids, and frequent sex, there is still an issue with foreplay. I am very curious to know what, in general, men believe foreplay is and how long should it last?
2sick is offline   Reply With Quote
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Old 11-17-2011, 07:57 AM   #2 (permalink)
Member
 
okeydokie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Posts: 2,170
Default Re: Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

as long as it takes to get her worked up and often all the way to orgasm.....however its only about twice a month
okeydokie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-17-2011, 07:59 AM   #3 (permalink)
Member
 
Almostrecovered's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: SEPA
Posts: 8,255
Default Re: Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

taking my pants off
__________________
▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬ஜ۩۞۩ஜ▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬
Newbies please read this
My story
Almostrecovered is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-17-2011, 08:02 AM   #4 (permalink)
Member
 
2sick's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Posts: 389
Default Re: Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

Quote:
Originally Posted by okeydokie View Post
as long as it takes to get her worked up and often all the way to orgasm.....however its only about twice a month
Sounds good to me!!!!
Really only twice a month?!?!? Is it mutually agreed upon or any physical problems?
2sick is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-17-2011, 08:03 AM   #5 (permalink)
Member
 
2sick's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Posts: 389
Default Re: Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Almostrecovered View Post
taking my pants off
But hey whatever works in your house!!!
2sick is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-17-2011, 08:37 AM   #6 (permalink)
Member
 
Almostrecovered's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: SEPA
Posts: 8,255
Default Re: Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

Quote:
Originally Posted by 2sick View Post
But hey whatever works in your house!!!

it was a joke


but in all seriousness, sometimes it's like this, my wife has been rather sexual since entering her dirty thirties and is often "ready" by merely suggesting we have sex


that isn't to say that I don't make out with her or have plenty of oral and caressing most of the time
__________________
▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬ஜ۩۞۩ஜ▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬
Newbies please read this
My story
Almostrecovered is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-17-2011, 08:43 AM   #7 (permalink)
Member
 
Bad News's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Posts: 91
Default Re: Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Almostrecovered View Post
taking my pants off
In the popular words of "Dr. Phil", How's that working for you?
__________________
Pick your spouse wisely and then work like hell!
Bad News is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-17-2011, 08:47 AM   #8 (permalink)
Member
 
Bad News's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Posts: 91
Default Re: Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Almostrecovered View Post
it was a joke

that isn't to say that I don't make out with her or have plenty of oral and caressing most of the time
So if you were willing to devote 10 - 20min of oral on your wife, whould she consider that foreplay?
__________________
Pick your spouse wisely and then work like hell!
Bad News is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-17-2011, 08:48 AM   #9 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2011
Posts: 87
Default Re: Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

I like to use it get her started and take it all the way to orgasm for her. I like to have her satisfied then its my turn. Sometimes during she will have another and that is just a bonus.

Most of the time thought she is the one who just wants to go straight to it. I on the other hand like when it is fully warmed up down there.
Wantsmore is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-17-2011, 08:54 AM   #10 (permalink)
Member
 
Almostrecovered's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: SEPA
Posts: 8,255
Default Re: Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Bad News View Post
So if you were willing to devote 10 - 20min of oral on your wife, whould she consider that foreplay?

well that's the thing, she doesn't need much priming currently, I give her oral because she has mind blowing orgasms when I do it. I guess we're lucky but if it wasn't like that I would do what ever she needs if it was needed to get her in the mood. BTW- we're both very playful throughout the day as it is, thus we sort of have foreplay constantly as it is. We either text each other sexy things, talk about the night before, smack her butt playfully, she pinches me, we kiss a lot, hug, hold hands, etc etc Our friends sometimes tell us to get a room we're so touchy at times.
__________________
▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬ஜ۩۞۩ஜ▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬
Newbies please read this
My story
Almostrecovered is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-17-2011, 08:59 AM   #11 (permalink)
Member
 
tacoma's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2011
Location: Florida
Posts: 5,248
Default Re: Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

Foreplay begins when you roll over an put your arms around her in the morning.

It ends when you pass out from exhaustion at night.

It's more a mental thing for me.
Posted via Mobile Device
tacoma is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-17-2011, 09:03 AM   #12 (permalink)
Member
 
2sick's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Posts: 389
Default Re: Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Bad News View Post
So if you were willing to devote 10 - 20min of oral on your wife, whould she consider that foreplay?
Not without the making out!!! lol Would you drive a car without turning it one?!?!? Just messing with ya!!!
2sick is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-17-2011, 09:05 AM   #13 (permalink)
Member
 
2sick's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Posts: 389
Default Re: Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Almostrecovered View Post
it was a joke


but in all seriousness, sometimes it's like this, my wife has been rather sexual since entering her dirty thirties and is often "ready" by merely suggesting we have sex


that isn't to say that I don't make out with her or have plenty of oral and caressing most of the time
PLENTY !!!!
2sick is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-17-2011, 09:14 AM   #14 (permalink)
Member
 
romantic_guy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2011
Posts: 768
Default Re: Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

We are kind of reversed in this area. Although my wife enjoys it, she really does not need it for her to have an orgasm. She usually gets there pretty quickly (she will often finish before I do). I, on the other hand, could take hours at love-play. It could be anything like cuddling on the couch naked and watching a movie, watching home-made sex vids. One thing I love to do is give her an orgasm orally, then she will use her mouth and hands on me to slowly bring me close to orgasm by teasing me for a while. After that she will get on top, still teasing me very slowly. Finally, when I know she is ready for another one, I will suck her cute little tits and we will both explode in orgasm.
__________________
The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 1 Corinthians 7:2 (The Message)
romantic_guy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-17-2011, 09:22 AM   #15 (permalink)
Member
 
2sick's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Posts: 389
Default Re: Foreplay what does it mean to men vs.women?!?!?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Almostrecovered View Post
well that's the thing, she doesn't need much priming currently, I give her oral because she has mind blowing orgasms when I do it. I guess we're lucky but if it wasn't like that I would do what ever she needs if it was needed to get her in the mood. BTW- we're both very playful throughout the day as it is, thus we sort of have foreplay constantly as it is. We either text each other sexy things, talk about the night before, smack her butt playfully, she pinches me, we kiss a lot, hug, hold hands, etc etc Our friends sometimes tell us to get a room we're so touchy at times.
TOOOO funny!!!! That is the reason why I posted!!!! h and I had a playful sext session, great conversation at dinner got home...he got his form of foreplay...c stroking, I waited a bit for some caressing...I stopped stroking and started kissing and caressing him to give the hint your turn... a separate issue regarding the tv ensued...then he proceed to go for oral...I laughed because it seemed like the fast forward button was pushed..he stopped and the romantic evening turned into a quickie for the h and frustration for me. Several hours later we talked and h stated that because of the sexting and the dinner that was enough priming. So long story longer that's the reason I was posting, to see if I'm just missing what men think foreplay is!!!
2sick is offline   Reply With Quote
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Reply

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
does men like foreplay? MrsPayne Sex in Marriage 22 06-12-2011 02:08 PM
Min/Max on Foreplay? Scannerguard Sex in Marriage 9 08-18-2010 04:23 PM

Member Area

Find a Therapist:


Sponsor Ads


Sponsor Ads




Get The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory Help Guide via Email:
Name:
Email:




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 04:08 AM.



Copyright 2007 - 2013 © Talk About Marriage