So, last night was the first time that my DW and I find ourselves having intercourse for the first time in nearly two weeks...between she and I being under the weather and the monthly visitor there had only been a couple times of oral and a couple handjobs since the last time we enjoyed intercourse.
Already, I am a little concerned last night because after a very hard workout, I am starving and end up taking her out to a casual dinner...casual, but still an hourlong dinner during which we are already both yawning...she tends to get grouchy when tired.
So, nice enough dinner, but then having done laundry, no bedsheets, comforter, etc., and more time and energy spent putting the bed back together, showering, etc., and by the time we get to bed, it is already nearly 10pm and we start our mornings early.
Trying to salvage it, I offer her a massage, light all of our candles (or, really, push the button as they are super cool little "candles" which are really just LED lights that are flameless candles but even flicker like candles) and proceed to give her a nice massage for maybe 15 minutes. Not sure if she was done with the massage or not, but when she flips from her stomach to back for some reason, I lunge at the opportunity and dive right in as I have been super hungry for her and I perform oral on her to completion.
Although I would love to keep going, she is super sensitive and only likes one orgasm per session, so, despite my best efforts, that is all I am going to enjoy of her orally, and she returns the favor. But, I am always cautious about her performing oral too long on me as I think she is going to get annoyed if I don't have intercourse with her after a couple minutes.
So, after maybe three minutes of oral, rock hard, I climb on top of her, and we are having sex for the first time in seemingly ages (probably 12 days) and this goes on for awhile, but, after a bit, I start to go soft. Unfortunately, she doesn't like to perform oral on me once I have already been inside her, as we tend to use plenty of lube and she doesn't like the texture or flavor of it. And, it is just a buzzkill for me to have to go rinse myself.
Anyway, at this point last night, she gets annoyed and starts lecturing me about this is what happens when I masturbate, blah blah blah, and I start back at her that if she would just blow me and not make a big deal about the lube, we would be able to keep going. She's upset, I'm upset and this whole thing went downhill in a hurry. This seems to happen about 1 out of 4, maybe 1 out of 5 times, although, again, my position is that if she would just blow me more, I'd be back at full staff and ready to complete the mission.
Well, I wasn't going to beg her for a blowjob or handjob at that point and went and rinsed, turned off all the candles, put on my boxers and pulled the covers over myself.
Typically, at this point, we'd go to bed angry at each other, but, instead, for the first time, she did something different...she cuddled up to me, said she didn't want to fight, caressed my chest, kissed me and proceeded to give me a nice blowjob, swallowed every drop and then we were both better to go to sleep at peace and in love with each other rather than upset at each other.
When I asked her what motivated her, she said that she had no energy to fight and would rather use her energy to bring us closer together. Although it has taken 3.5 years for this to happen, I do hope that this is a very positive step in our marriage.
Ended up spooning with her for an extra half hour this morning and looking forward to the weekend now that we are both at 100% again.
Something like this could be a positive lesson for both husbands and wives, alike, I think...make an effort, light some candles, touch your partner softly, be a giving partner, don't be judgmental and upset if your partner does not f*** like a porn star, take that extra step if it is going to help your partner climax, and then express gratitude to and for each other and carry it on into the next day.