I don't completely agree that the dating pool for a man in his fifties looking for a woman in her mid thirties is automatically terribly huge. That's a 16 year age difference.
I didn't say it was huge. I was come up with a general age in order for him to have a healthy child.
- One of my good friends is 65 years old, and dates women from age 22~45 or so. He's that good... older than me, and getting younger chicks than my wife.
- When my mom was about 25, her long term boyfriend was 55years old. 40 years later, she still misses him.
- I was 40 when I meet my future wife when she was 25 - six years ago. I am playing with our 2 year old while I'm typing this. At 46, I had started dating again when my wife cheated on me and we broke up (I say wife, because its easier to say - even thou we are no longer married) - I had some fun with a 28yr old, had eyes from a drunken 22yr old. Was dating a 33yr old. I had my freedom, but I wanted my wife, mother of my son - back more than easy / NSA sex.
The OP sacrificed having children for love with his wife. He gets points for that. Hell, my wife wasn't supposed to be able to get pregnant and it was a high-risk pregnancy in which we almost lost him.
Larry King is having kids in his 80s... I think.
So, if you're a 51yr old male. Decent looks and steady personality and income. He can be attractive to women generally, age 33+... if the goal is to have a solid relationship and have a child. Each year over 30, the woman's biological clock is ticking down (higher risk of birth defects or viable births). A women in her early 30s, motherless - are aware of the childbearing years coming to an end... so they may be on the lookout for a good-father type male, especially someone who is dedicated to the family. But if he has Herpes, the number of available women that may say YES to dating him, and having children would be severely reduced... could be around 1/10 ~ 1/20th.
So if he meets a woman at age 33 in which they have common interests and personality compatibility. That gives them a year or so to see if they have a healthy relationship, want children... choose to get married if they want to (not required for pregnancy) and give birth within 2-3 years of meeting. But since he's been in a relationship for almost half his life, he should do NSA dating/sex for several months to work out kinks in what is compatible and to not be desperate, so alone can take 1~3 years to sort out.
I gotta go... a diaper to change. He's like a mini-me, 1/10th my mass.