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Yes, weight gain is common but I've never heard of being desensitized.Also, is it a pretty normal thing for women to gain lots of weight and be desensitized from taking BC?
I wish they'd come out with that damn male BC already, I'd try it in a heartbeat. It's been in testing since I met my lady (I know because I looked ).
Just so you know as I've seen it recommended here, I got pregnant with my son using the "rhythm" method (avoiding ovulation), and I have a very regular cycle. It's not really a safe method to use if having a baby would be a crisis. We only use it because an "oops" wouldn't be the end of the world for us.
Another here who would caution the period cycle checking method. Husband and I thought we were in the safe period at the time turns out we were not :grin2:
I've had similar unpleasant reactions to the pill and also to the mirena (hormonal IUD) that others on this thread have described (weight gain, change in orgams, etc)Hey all, I wanted to revisit this. Thanks so much for all of your advice.
I've been having conversations about this with her and she agrees she misses the confidence of knowing she probably won't get pregnant from us having sex, and also misses the connection to each other we would feel when I would come inside of her. In all honesty, that's the biggest thing for us, we absolutely loved being able to do that, it brought sex to a whole new level of meaning. We find no interest in condoms, that's the opposite of what we're looking for here, but I'm really apprehensive to keep using withdrawal too. We're lucky to have not had any accidents from that, and I understand I'm playing with fire. Hormonal BC is absolutely not an option for us anymore because it flat-lined her sex drive and sensitivity, and also made her gain considerable weight. She's afraid of the idea of an IUD because she's heard horror stories of it being painful to install, having it move or slip out of place, or having her body reject it altogether. She doesn't like the idea of having a foreign object stuck inside her, blocking her up. I don't blame her, but we also have literally no other options. I'm open to the idea of Vasalgel, but that's a few years out still.
Can some of you ladies offer any first hand experiences and/or confirmation/denial of her fears? The last thing I'd want is for her to be in pain or for her to suffer some kind of mishap like it coming out of place or an infection. She does have an extremely sensitive body and probably has EDS. We used the Nuva ring a few years back, and that gave her non-stop infections and discomfort.
My wife had some health complications for which she had to stop BC once. I took this as an opportunity to relive my teenage years of sexual experiences in which the fear of getting your girl pregnant can actually add to your pleasure instead of taking away from it. It is all about perspective. Odds are if you explain this idea to your wife, she will be game to help make it a fun experience for you as well.Yes, there are a few other factors going into why we probably don't have sex very often, but the stoppage of birth control was a gigantic turn around point for me. I literally dropped off the sex-map when she stopped BC. Has anyone else experienced this sudden lack of a desire for sex because their woman stopped taking birth control? Also, is it a pretty normal thing for women to gain lots of weight and be desensitized from taking BC?
I wish they'd come out with that damn male BC already, I'd try it in a heartbeat. It's been in testing since I met my lady (I know because I looked ).
I've done exactly this, the problem is that she doesn't retain the information. She doesn't learn, and that's my frustration. It's been a thing for so long and like I said I've tried so many different angles that there's nothing left to happen but let my frustrations start to boil over and spill out. I'm only human!! Yes, I understand why so many people might think "well, if you're tried everything, why are you still together?" but that's because you don't know us personally, you don't know all the facts, and after being together for 10 years, some things are simply worth giving a little extra effort towards fixing. If you can't understand that, you're not human.when she does what you like, always respond "yes, and". That is great, and doing ____ would be ever hotter!
Look you are probably going to get a great deal of criticism for being a male with a lack of desire while in the meantime you have a wife with a healthy libido.the stoppage of birth control was a gigantic turn around point for me. I literally dropped off the sex-map when she stopped BC. Has anyone else experienced this sudden lack of a desire for sex...
I see you managed to work your agenda on her and now she suddenly 'can't stand' sex with condoms. Because in your first post, she was totally fine with condoms and was thrilled to once again begin enjoying sex once she was out from under the negative affects of the birth control she'd been on. YOU were the one whining about condoms, not her.Hey all, I wanted to revisit this. Thanks so much for all of your advice.
I've been having conversations about this with her and she agrees she misses the confidence of knowing she probably won't get pregnant from us having sex, and also misses the connection to each other we would feel when I would come inside of her. In all honesty, that's the biggest thing for us, we absolutely loved being able to do that, it brought sex to a whole new level of meaning. We find no interest in condoms, that's the opposite of what we're looking for here, but I'm really apprehensive to keep using withdrawal too. We're lucky to have not had any accidents from that, and I understand I'm playing with fire. Hormonal BC is absolutely not an option for us anymore because it flat-lined her sex drive and sensitivity, and also made her gain considerable weight. She's afraid of the idea of an IUD because she's heard horror stories of it being painful to install, having it move or slip out of place, or having her body reject it altogether. She doesn't like the idea of having a foreign object stuck inside her, blocking her up. I don't blame her, but we also have literally no other options. I'm open to the idea of Vasalgel, but that's a few years out still.
Can some of you ladies offer any first hand experiences and/or confirmation/denial of her fears? The last thing I'd want is for her to be in pain or for her to suffer some kind of mishap like it coming out of place or an infection. She does have an extremely sensitive body and probably has EDS. We used the Nuva ring a few years back, and that gave her non-stop infections and discomfort.
Ok Dad.I'm definitely not going back to wearing condoms, no way in hell.