Hello,
Im new to the forum and am sorry Im joining with hope for advice.
My husband and I have been married 6 years, we are both late 20s and have a 1 year old child. Since I fell pregnant, fatigue and a few other things crushed my sex drive. My husband was alright with this but would still ask and when I felt I could Id have sex with him. Once the baby was born things have especially dried up. I workfull time, study full time and raise our baby whilst he works his long hours.
This has reared its head a few times now and each time I explain Im tired etc. Obviously the longer it goes on the more antsy he gets and he grabs at me in bed. he will place my hand on his penis unexpectedly or grab my vagina. Ive told him I dont like like, he apologises forgets and starts it again. I move my hand away but itsnow at the point I go to bedbefore him so Im left alone. I cringe, I dont feel safe in my bed anymore.
Tonight, he grabbed at me again. I asked him not to, I told him I am tired as it was 130 am. he then got up and walked out. This prompted a big conversation, he feels I no longer love him because we dont have sex, I told him if he used a little romance then hes going to get alotg further and I am well within my rights to refuse sex. Th conversation got deeper and I told him that I feel he is sexually assaulting me and I no longer feel that bed is a relaxing time for me. I asked him to see a prostitute if that would help him dealwith whatever it is. He then told me he masturabtes every night now because of me and doesnt need a prostiute.
We have a good marriage, theres a drought going on but in so many other ways I show him I love him. I have learnt to cook his food (hes from a different country), every weekend I plan dates out that he would love dirt biking, motorbike shows, movies etc I kiss him, Im affectionate in other ways but Ive been having sex with him for 2 years out of obligation and now constantly being grabbed at all desire is gone. I hate it, I wait for him to finish and hope he is quick so I can sleep.
My health and fatigue was the start of the drought but the pressure has killed it for me. I dont know what im hoping for bywriting here. Maybe an anonymous way to vent. Im stuck.
Im in a happy marriage until bed time. Then I avoid being awake. Im sick of being felt up by my horny husband and sick of being made to feel guilty because Im not putting out on every demand. Its never done aggressively but it always ends with me on a guilt trip
Someone please help me make sense of where I go to from here :crying::crying::crying:
Thanks,
Im new to the forum and am sorry Im joining with hope for advice.
My husband and I have been married 6 years, we are both late 20s and have a 1 year old child. Since I fell pregnant, fatigue and a few other things crushed my sex drive. My husband was alright with this but would still ask and when I felt I could Id have sex with him. Once the baby was born things have especially dried up. I workfull time, study full time and raise our baby whilst he works his long hours.
This has reared its head a few times now and each time I explain Im tired etc. Obviously the longer it goes on the more antsy he gets and he grabs at me in bed. he will place my hand on his penis unexpectedly or grab my vagina. Ive told him I dont like like, he apologises forgets and starts it again. I move my hand away but itsnow at the point I go to bedbefore him so Im left alone. I cringe, I dont feel safe in my bed anymore.
Tonight, he grabbed at me again. I asked him not to, I told him I am tired as it was 130 am. he then got up and walked out. This prompted a big conversation, he feels I no longer love him because we dont have sex, I told him if he used a little romance then hes going to get alotg further and I am well within my rights to refuse sex. Th conversation got deeper and I told him that I feel he is sexually assaulting me and I no longer feel that bed is a relaxing time for me. I asked him to see a prostitute if that would help him dealwith whatever it is. He then told me he masturabtes every night now because of me and doesnt need a prostiute.
We have a good marriage, theres a drought going on but in so many other ways I show him I love him. I have learnt to cook his food (hes from a different country), every weekend I plan dates out that he would love dirt biking, motorbike shows, movies etc I kiss him, Im affectionate in other ways but Ive been having sex with him for 2 years out of obligation and now constantly being grabbed at all desire is gone. I hate it, I wait for him to finish and hope he is quick so I can sleep.
My health and fatigue was the start of the drought but the pressure has killed it for me. I dont know what im hoping for bywriting here. Maybe an anonymous way to vent. Im stuck.
Im in a happy marriage until bed time. Then I avoid being awake. Im sick of being felt up by my horny husband and sick of being made to feel guilty because Im not putting out on every demand. Its never done aggressively but it always ends with me on a guilt trip
Someone please help me make sense of where I go to from here :crying::crying::crying:
Thanks,