1 Do men ever have emotion in sex? 2 Are men capable of really making love? And if so, how can you make love with one woman and watch another just for fun? 3 How can I overcome these hurt feelings and get our relationship back?
Sorry I'm late here but I will still answer your questions from a Confused Husband male perspective. Most people here already think I'm a pervert anyways so I'm just going to tell you what I think.
1 - YES! Men do feel love for YOU when they are having sex with you. However men are visual and they need visual stimuli for their sexuality to work (to get it up and keep it up). It's not so much about the "touch" as much about the "sight" or in some cases the fantasy of the sight. So porn, cam-girls, wandering eyes, are all manifestations of the fact that your husband likes variety, like 90% of men.
But that has nothing to do with the feelings or emotions for you.
When having sex with my wife, I think about her, her beautiful body, all the great feelings she is giving me, how much I love her, how dirty she is when she whispers unimaginable things in my ear that get me hard instantly, and I'm really enjoying the moment, AND...AND...sometimes I might throw in an external image from a porn scene I have seen or somebody I have met that morning (an attractive woman for example). But these are just images...and they have nothing to do with real life. Men do this, they mix visual images with reality.
2 - YES! But remember while women love emotions, men love images. That's why so many men watch porn, its stimulating...thats all that is. (except webcams and I will go back to that later...). Like I said before: while I'm having sex with my wife and we are really deep into it, we are both thinkin about each other and the pleasure, but also our own fantasies creep in and in that state, while you are trying to prolong it and not have an orgasm, your mind is going wild...things happen, images pup up, and it's not that we THINK about somebody else, but we might think about an erotic image of somebody else, or an act that somebody else performed, about that one porn scene that made us all bothered the night before, and we are dying to try it with our wives.
My wife has very wild images of other men too, I know it because when she is close to orgasm, she says things to me that she will never admit to herself in a normal state of mind, and she says things about me and suggests fantasies FOR ME that I would never think of discussing with her. This kind of chemistry usually leads to a mutual orgasm.
3 - Realize that cam-girls for a man are no different that other porn. You freaked out because while what are the odds of your husband ever meeting a pornstar and have sex with her in real life? None. Contrary, he just met and interacted with a girl he could have seen naked masturbating on the internet the night before!!!!! That goes beyond just a fantasy, that is reality! And yes, hunny, I have to tell you this: cam girls have contests, and if a member wins (usually the highest paying one), they will have sex with him in front of everybody during another cam-show.
So this is very close to home...too close for you to be ok with it, no wonder you are freaking out.
I think 99% even if you guys go and meet with this cam girl several times, nothing will ever happen. Most cam girls are shy in real life, ahve boyfriends or husbands...they also know there are 1000 average joes out there that would love to bang them so they dont really pay too much attention to males in general. They are in it for the money.
Hope this helps