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Old 11-23-2011, 03:38 PM   #1 (permalink)
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For the last 4 months, my sex drive is non-existent. I do not know what happen, I am just not interested in having sex. My husband is so frustrated with me, because we had sex all the time until recently. I know some times when I am upset with my husband I don't want to be bothered. But other times, its like I don't have a desire to be intimate at all.
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Old 11-23-2011, 03:45 PM   #2 (permalink)
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You probably don't feel interested in doing dishes either. But you do them!

If your husband is important to you, you will put an effort into meeting his needs. You may have to work at being intimate, but hopefully, once you get there, you will enjoy it.
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Old 11-23-2011, 03:58 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Not sure how you feel about supplements, but amazon.com has a natural testosterone creme by natural radiance that really helped me kick start my sex drive. I only needed to use it a couple weeks and I needed sex everyday. I only used 1/2 of the daily recommendation it called for and it worked very well for me. After the two weeks, I built up enough of my own testosterone and I still don't mind having sex/making love everyday. My husband most definatly deserves love making as much as he needs to.

Plus my husband meets all my needs physically and emotionally. I find him extremely attractive and I can't keep my hands off of him.
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So, regardless of what my needs are and how I feel I should just suck it up and have sex because that is what my husband whats?
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So, regardless of what my needs are and how I feel I should just suck it up and have sex because that is what my husband whats?
I don't agree with that. I believe it's VERY important our husbands are meeting our needs in order for us to meet theirs. That previous statement sounds pretty selfish on the males part.

Edit to add--- My ex husband was abusive and unfaithful. He expected sex daily, even secretly taped me during the act. I was mortified upon finding the tape. I could not have sex after what he had done to me.
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So, regardless of what my needs are and how I feel I should just suck it up and have sex because that is what my husband whats?

How would you feel if your husband said that regardless of his needs, he should just suck it up and not show you any affection? Men connect emotionally to their wives through sex; it is his way of showing you that he loves you.

What do you resent about him? You need to try tell him what he can do to break down the wall that you have built up between you two.
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The OP didn't say that her husband wasn't meeting her needs. Just that she didn't feel like having sex.

If she said he wasn't meeting her needs, then I would have asked if that was maybe because she wasn't meeting his. Or if she has even told him that he isn't meeting her needs.
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What is your age? Have you been to the doctor to have you hormone levels checked? It could be something medical. However built up resentment is usually a big sex killer. So if you feel its that then you both might want to seek some kind of counseling to get things back on track in the marriage.
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Old 11-23-2011, 04:38 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Hi susan ~

Let's start from the beginning.

How old are you? How long married? Any kids? Ages of kids?

You said it started four months ago. Was there anything that happened during that time that you can pinpoint? New job, new stress, new medication?

Loss and lack of libido is a pretty common thing, especially in women. So, don't feel bad about it. Our libidos can be complicated and can have direct ties to so many things in our lives. That is just the way we are wired.

Here's a good list of things for you to consider that could be impacting your libido:

Low sex drive in women: Causes - MayoClinic.com

Can you see anything from the attached article's list that you think could be a contributing factor for you?

Other than your libido issues, what is your general relationship like with your husband outside of the bedroom?

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Not sure how you feel about supplements, but amazon.com has a natural testosterone creme by natural radiance that really helped me kick start my sex drive. I only needed to use it a couple weeks and I needed sex everyday. I only used 1/2 of the daily recommendation it called for and it worked very well for me. After the two weeks, I built up enough of my own testosterone and I still don't mind having sex/making love everyday. My husband most definatly deserves love making as much as he needs to.

Plus my husband meets all my needs physically and emotionally. I find him extremely attractive and I can't keep my hands off of him.
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Now if she'll use it is another story.....Guess its a $40 gamble. Willing to try anything at this point.
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Thanks ordered be here monday

Now if she'll use it is another story.....Guess its a $40 gamble. Willing to try anything at this point.
It took me about 1.5 weeks before my drive increased. That's using 1/2 of the recommended amount. It's worth every single penny!
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So, regardless of what my needs are and how I feel I should just suck it up and have sex because that is what my husband whats?
You're the one posting here, so you'll be the one getting advice/suggestions. My thought... Withholding sex will soon build resentment and frustrations. This will sill over into other areas of your relationship. In the end, a separation/divorce are the "clean" results; an affair is the dirty one.

Ideally, the two of you will deal with your lack of drive together. He can stop doing things that empty your love bank. You'll communicate clearly and honestly with him on what your needs are. Even if things are painful and uncomfortable to talk about.

Ignoring the problem won't make it go away. And a marriage with no intimacy is, at best, two roommates that get along. I doubt that's what either of you signed up for.

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Thanks ordered be here monday

Now if she'll use it is another story.....Guess its a $40 gamble. Willing to try anything at this point.
Testosterone cream isn't really an 'approved' way of revving up a woman's libido and is often not recommended in women who are of childbearing age. Hormones are complicated things.

If she does try it, make sure that she follows the directions, and if she has any medical conditions at all, especially hormonal ones, then don't try it.

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Testosterone cream isn't really an 'approved' way of revving up a woman's libido and is often not recommended in women who are of childbearing age. Hormones are complicated things.

If she does try it, make sure that she follows the directions, and if she has any medical conditions at all, especially hormonal ones, then don't try it.

Testosterone for women
You mean I cant just slather her with it?????????
Call it massage cream?



Just kidding...

My wife is way beyond child rearing...as for hormones she is overdue for a doctor check so I have no idea.
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Testosterone cream isn't really an 'approved' way of revving up a woman's libido and is often not recommended in women who are of childbearing age. Hormones are complicated things.

If she does try it, make sure that she follows the directions, and if she has any medical conditions at all, especially hormonal ones, then don't try it.

Testosterone for women
There is barely any testosterone in the formula. They use homeopathic testosterone(natural not synthetic).

It works very well for me and the nice thing about the creme is you control how much is applied. This is not FDA approved, but many supplements are not. I use a super food "chia seeds" that are fully packed with omega and other vitamins that is not FDA approved either. All supplements I use are known by my doctor, including this creme.
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