Re: Avoiding nonsexual intimacy - because it is too arousing
In retrospect, for me the solution was simple. After spending too many years avoiding nonsexual intimacy because my wife rejected sexual intimacy, I left. No more avoidance OR rejection! No more issues with intimacy, or different drives. I looked for and found someone compatible, and never looked back. When you are IN the problem - and perhaps part of the problem - solutions are extraordinarily difficult.
Love is an ideal thing; marriage is a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
CELIBACY IS NOT HEREDITARY.