Re: The strange case of Ms Uhtred's sex life.
You're being abused. Torture would be just as apt a description. Imagine throwing a tennis ball and telling your dog to go fetch it. You throw the ball, the dog turns and runs after it. After a second, the dog stops because it doesn't see the ball or hear where it landed. Little does it realize that the ball never left your hand. She wears sexy lingerie to get you worked up, and then suggests sex later, but always shuts you down with excuses. Are you the assertive type? Why do you give her all the power? This is not a healthy dynamic, not for you anyway, because you're letting her call all the shots. Next time she suggests sex later that night, drop everything, take her hand or lift her up, and carry her to the bedroom. See what she says.