Re: The strange case of Ms Uhtred's sex life.
Richard, now that I know it's you, I want you to know I have great sympathy for you and the horrible position your marriage has created.
You seek answers in understanding your wife and I wonder why. What difference does it make to you or to her if you understand why her desire for sex is unalterable outside of action you refuse to take? Does knowing she may have uterine fibroids help you accept the lack of sex? If she has fibroids that make sex uncomfortable, why doesn't she see a doctor? You see it all keeps coming back to one unalterable truth. She sees no value in sex. Why, is anyone's guess. But everyone agrees there isn't a damn thing you can actually do to get her to value sex nearly as much as you do. Understanding her, appreciating her, loving her, complimenting her, spending time with her, hearing her, none of this will cause her to value sex. The only thing that might is to tell her you won't fight this sexless battle for the rest of your life and you are leaving. If she values you, she will seek ways to also value sex. If she doesn't value you enough, she will blame you for being selfish. You're not selfish.
"Some women are blessed with multi-orgasmic ability for a reason and I'm damn sure not going to waste a blessing" ~FrenchFry
"Vaginas are tricky creatures." ~Lucy999