There must be plenty of women that are like us out there. I read somewhere that 1% of the population is asexual, so that must include plenty of men, too. My hope is that someday, this variation of human experience will be talked about openly, so that young people don't have to feel broken and abnormal if they happen to be born that way.
I think asexuality is such a complicated subject that it's difficult to really talk about in the same way one discusses the other branches of human sexuality. It's in no small part due to the fact that nobody really talks about it... A vicious circle, if you will.
My wife identifies herself as asexual, but it's a very grey area (like much of asexuality, I'm learning). She does so because she feels no sexual attraction to anybody, and never has. Yet she does have a sex drive, albeit a small one. Basically, she is asexual with a responsive sex drive towards men.
And this is part of the reason that the entire subject isn't discussed - because the asexual spectrum is so vast to begin with, and it affects a relatively small part of the population as a whole. Far less than the other sexual identities. You start out with ~1% of the population, then you further break those people down into the myriad other identities within this already small faction. You can identify as asexual, and be attracted to men, women, or both. You can enjoy sex, you can masturbate, or you could be completely repulsed by sexual activity. You could enjoy the physical aspect of sex or just the intimate, emotional side - or both.
As far as I understand, the only thing that people who identify as asexual have in common is lack of sexual attraction to people. It's not about spontaneous desire or the inability to get turned on, per se, but just the lack of attraction to a person in a sexual manner. The way the other ~99% of the population can look at a man or woman and be attracted to them (which often includes wanting to be sexual with them).
My wife, as I understand it, has never felt a physical or sexual attraction to somebody in her life. Funny story, she went on a date with a guy, shortly before we connected. It was a guy we both knew from our school days. In a nutshell, he is not an attractive man. He IS a very nice guy, but he's definitely not blessed in the physical/facial side of things. For that matter, my wife's ex is not an attractive guy, either. My wife is beautiful, honestly, and not just to me.
I often wondered what she had seen in these guys, but it started to make sense once the topic of asexuality came up. That's not to denigrate these two particular men and what other things they bring to the table, but from the standpoint of physical attraction, it didn't make sense to me.