Re: The strange case of Ms Uhtred's sex life.
To clarify, if I asked my wife to stop wearing lingerie around the house she would. I think I've mistakenly given the impression that it bothers me, when really it mystifies me.
Once I understood that her wearing lingerie didn't imply sex, it stopped being teasing. So not it is really just curiosity: Why go out of her way to buy and wear sexy lingerie that probably isn't the most comfortable thing in the world, when she doesn't want to entice me.
I've even make the distinction clear to hear between lingerie that looks very nice in a non-sexual way. (well mostly non-sexual, I still find her very attractive in a Japanese silk bathrobe), and lingerie that is clearly designed to entice. So if she wants non-sexual appreciation of her appearance, she can get it. Yet she still wears the very sexy stuff - why? Why look for attention that she is planning to turn down?
Again, its not really a problem anymore - I know the sexy clothes don't imply a desire for sex.