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So, first day on this site and I am already finding so many useful threads. I am looking forward to reading more and hopefully learning all that I can! My wife and I have been married almost a yr, New Yrs Day will be a year but we have been together for 4! Our sex life is good to great! I think we both want it more but busy lives definitely slow us down. I don't think we are at the point of resentment yet so things are good.
One of the things I think we both would enjoy is more spontaneous sex! Sex in a dressing room, random moments in the car yadda yadda! She is a lil more wild than me and a bit of an exhibitionist! One of her fantasies is having someone watch us so sex out in public is with out a doubt something she would be into! Sad to say tho I am more cautious. Its not that I am worried about people catching us or watching us. It is the call to the cops someone might put in that worries me. All that goes thru my head is being caught by a cop, arrested and charged with some sort of sex crime where we have to register as a sex offender for getting it on in JCpenny dressing room!! So any advice how I get this out of my head? You hear stories of people having to register for being in public or flashing or whatever and I get that would be a far fetched chance that we would get more than a ticket or even a warning but that chance is still there you get a cop having a bad day!!
My wife and I have done a little public sex, too. The trick that we've discovered is to do it where it seems that you may be seen, but really won't.
I wouldn't try dressing rooms in stores. They are on to that. A good place is a theater during a daytime matinee. The places are usually empty.
Another good place is on a hiking path during a weekday.
You do have to be careful. If you are busted by the cops, it is very likely that you will be labeled as a sex offender.
My husband has a bit of a public sex fantasy, but also worries about the same things you do. So we have "semi-public" sex. We take the big SUV with the DVD player and tinted windows, park along the street somewhere fairly busy, put in some porn and gt busy. If someone really paid close attention they'd know what was going on, but to the casual passer by they'd never catch on. He loves it. We'll also go out in the country, right in the flight path of planes coming in to land here, and he'll bend me over the hood of the car. We're not sure if anyone in the planes can see or not, but the idea that they might be able to is enough for him.
No sex in the dressing room though, pretty sure most have cameras now. No interest in going to jail!
@ Imallin- I sent you a private message on another topic!
@dan- We did the theater. Middle of the day and used one of the family restrooms on an upper floor. I was in the theater and she sent me a picture and text telling me to meet her there. It was hot, but I was so worried about getting caught that I just wham bammed it. I am sure she didn't get anything out of it!
for me i would say the exhibitionism of it. I couldn't say for her but I would venture the same. But maybe a little of the danger as well. I think the danger of being caught adds that lil extra but don't want the consequences of getting caught!!
@ Imallin- I sent you a private message on another topic!
@dan- We did the theater. Middle of the day and used one of the family restrooms on an upper floor. I was in the theater and she sent me a picture and text telling me to meet her there. It was hot, but I was so worried about getting caught that I just wham bammed it. I am sure she didn't get anything out of it!
We have done oral and manual in the theater seat. Damn exciting.
the pure exhibitionism or the part where you might get caught?
For us, it's the idea of being "naughty" and maybe a little taboo. It also brings back the excitement of our teenage days when we would do it anywhere we could catch a few minutes.
The SUV is another good one. We did it in a busy rest stop one afternoon.
I am not sure it is something that can be satisfied. I think if you enjoy it you will always enjoy that.
I dont mean one and done, but I'm saying if you have a safe environment for your exhibitionism then why risk getting arrested unless the risk is what is getting you excited?
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Originally Posted by Jtaylor33
If by boundaries you are talking about playing with other couples we have not got into that. But that is a whole other thread and convo I am sure!
Public sex and your spouse! 
