12-05-2011, 12:36 AM
Join Date: Jan 2010
| | Re: Just trying to get to the kissing stages again!!
This is sort of a long story how the seperation happened, but I will try to shorten it up.
My husband has an anger issue and over teh years we have grown distant. I had grown afraid of him for good reasons. I felt like we were roommates and was so lonely that I kept myself very busy to not think about the loneliness. I started staying up really late at night because I had a friendship on FB that started to go to EA. This person was in another state and we mostly talked about growing up as we went to the same school and I was missing my home state and town.
My husband was trying to ask me for about a week what was going on. He was really worried about me he said, cause I was not sleeping. So a few days later he really was prying for info. he threw things all over the house and slammed things for about 4 hrs. I got a restraiing order after that, that went permanent a week after he was served. We did not communicate except for bills and kids for a month. Then the next day after he was served with divorce papers he asked me if I really wanted the divorce.
I actually thought he wanted teh divorce for years, so I was really really surprised that he asked me if I was seriously wanting divorce, especially since he was trying to have me served first.
So we have been communicating since Oct 3rd. Restraining order was dropped totally after a month of us communicating mostly through email.
We have completed our first MC last Friday and he seems a little better. Our next MC is not scheduled yet, not sure if we have time with his work schedule before the end of the year.
Today he came over to fix something, when he was finished he sat on the couch watching TV for about an hour. This was the first time he sat in his old spot and sort of acted like he lived at home again. After he left he text and said it was really nice.
So I hope with time and more communication that we continue to grow closure.
I have been reading a lot of threads on this section and am learning a lot of things to spice stuff up that I didn't do when activly in the marriage. I hope I might be able try some in the next 3 months or so.