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Try starting out in spoon fashion. Then you (in front of him) roll onto your back, lifting your top leg over his hips. He stays in place, maybe leaning back a little to accomodate you. When you're on your back, one leg over his hips, one under his legs the two of you form an "X" (and still maintain penetration). Just stroke normally. This give you the face to face and also the ability for his hands to caress your breasts, stomach, clit, etc.
We use the missionary position infrequently. The position he likes best is on with him on his side and me on my back and our legs intertwined. It allows us both to move and control and my hands are free to stimulate myself. I like doggie style, but missionary is nice when I am feeling more romantic and less acrobatic. When I am feeling acrobatic I get on top. I like reverse cowgirl too, I think it hits all of the right spots. I am probably on top about 1/4 of the time.
physically I prefer my wife to be on top for many reasons including the physical disabilities I have, and frankly I just find it sexier. However, normally we do missionary because she orgasms often and better.
I prefer the positioning so that SHE has the most fullfilling orgasm.
Sometimes it's missionary (although rarely ), sometimes cowgirl, rarely reverse cowgirl, sometimes I'm in the doggie position, sometimes she is (her favorite), sometimes over the edge of the couch with me on the floor on my knees, sometimes cross-wise and connected at the genitals, doggie and then pushing her down onto her stomach, a lotus position. Bondage. Role playing.
There's a huge variety of positions. It's what works at the moment and for the "best" results (for her, then for me; she always cums first!).
Not to mention the rope and basket technique... now where did I leave my pulleys...?
Uuuh...LOL...Ok I thought I knew almost everything when it comes to things people do in bed, but can you explain to me the doggie style position when the man is in the doggie position? How does that work? What does she do? God I hope the answer doesnt embarrass us both LOL sorry..
BTW my husband is like you, he prefers the position that has the most effect on me.
Wait a minute I just read more....what is the rope and basket technique?! Come on man give a girl some new ideas..!!!
Doggy style, missionary, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl... oh I could name about 20 I would REALLY like. but what we get is me on top, me on top, me on top a little missionary and some doggy if i beg for it.
Great question! i think this site is a cure for a low sex drive lol. I prefer her being on top, but i like taking the dominant role when we are having sex. I'm not a selfish lover, so we also do it doggy which is her favorite position. i enjoy grabbing her by the ankles and positioning her to my whim. Like Marina72 "golden monkey" lol is awsome
For freedom of having my hands all over her...I enjoy her on top, but she really enjoys missionary with her legs/feet around my neck....with hard and fast thrusts. If she has had her orgasms and is wearing down I may finish from behind with her laying on tummy or side with one leg drawn up.
I'll take it however I can get it however, one of my favorites is definitely reverse cowgirl. Awesome feeling and visual. From behind with her lying on her stomach on the edge of the bed is really good too.
She seems to enjoy from behind (standing, kneeling, spooning) the most.