Hey all,
So I have been married for 3 years now (I'm 28 and wife 27) and everything in the marriage has been going strong outside of sex. The first year of our marriage we had sex roughly 1-2 times a week, as she felt this was enough for her. This wasn't enough for me but I figured I'd sacrifice and be the one to come to her terms, as it isn't a horrible number. However, after that first year, our sex life has dropped so low that we have sex on average between 1-2 times a month. Just as an example, since October 1st of 2016, we have had sex 4 times and of those 4 times, I've had to initiate 3 of them. I've dropped off initiating so much because I was constantly being turned down and it's just not fun to always try to help set the mood to just be turned down.
Ontop of all this, when we do have sex, it's basically a one way street. I give her plenty of foreplay in hopes that she will return the favor but I never get it. For her, it's about getting what she wants and then finishing up as quick as possible.
I've had talks, several, over the past 2 years. This year alone I've had 6 talks about how I'd like to increase our sex life and what I can do to help increase. She would agree to it and hold to it for about 2 weeks before diving back down to 1-2 times a month. I've tried talking, so many times, well over 10 times in 2 years, it just doesn't seem to get through to her.
Any other ideas?
So I have been married for 3 years now (I'm 28 and wife 27) and everything in the marriage has been going strong outside of sex. The first year of our marriage we had sex roughly 1-2 times a week, as she felt this was enough for her. This wasn't enough for me but I figured I'd sacrifice and be the one to come to her terms, as it isn't a horrible number. However, after that first year, our sex life has dropped so low that we have sex on average between 1-2 times a month. Just as an example, since October 1st of 2016, we have had sex 4 times and of those 4 times, I've had to initiate 3 of them. I've dropped off initiating so much because I was constantly being turned down and it's just not fun to always try to help set the mood to just be turned down.
Ontop of all this, when we do have sex, it's basically a one way street. I give her plenty of foreplay in hopes that she will return the favor but I never get it. For her, it's about getting what she wants and then finishing up as quick as possible.
I've had talks, several, over the past 2 years. This year alone I've had 6 talks about how I'd like to increase our sex life and what I can do to help increase. She would agree to it and hold to it for about 2 weeks before diving back down to 1-2 times a month. I've tried talking, so many times, well over 10 times in 2 years, it just doesn't seem to get through to her.
Any other ideas?